Had my first child over 40 – AMA

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I got pregnant at 41 and gave birth at 42. My son is 5 months old. It seems like more and more people are having kids over 40 so I thought people might have questions about it.

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  1. SunsetDreams1111 Avatar

    Congratulations! And it is becoming more popular and it gives many people hope. Can you share more about your story and why you waited? Also, many people who wait until their 40s say they feel more youthful. Did you keep your health in check and how are you feeling?

  2. babyybunnyy3 Avatar

    As someone who had their only child at 17 (now 22) and even the doctor said I healed up very quickly because of how young I was, how was the healing process after birth? Just curious because if I do have more children, I plan for it not to be until mid to late 30s.

  3. Ummimmina Avatar

    My husband and I are in our mid 30’s. The back pain has begun. Haha
    How is it going for you?

  4. YakClean3103 Avatar

    Was it hard to get pregnant at this age? Do you want more kids?

  5. Agent_7_Creamy_Spy Avatar

    Did you freeze your eggs? Were you concerned with any health issues your baby might have? Does he have any?

    Did you always want to be a mother? Did you want to wait or did it just happen this way?

    Congratulations and I wish you and your family the best!

  6. Alternative-Bit-4792 Avatar

    Did you purposely wait?

  7. Both_Dust_8383 Avatar

    I’m giving birth soon to my first at 36 and omg the pain im in, the fatigue, the stress.. 😂 how did you do during your pregnancy? Would you do it again? My husband wants another and idk if I should try to go back to back or wait a year!

  8. giotheitaliandude Avatar

    Haha sweet. My mother had my sister at 42 when I was 12 now my sister is 15 and my mom is in her mid-late 50s. Some people just happen to get pregnant later in life 👌🏼

  9. tacocarteleventeen Avatar

    What are your thoughts on the much higher risk of Autism in children born to mothers over 40?

  10. Own_Strength_7645 Avatar

    following to see another perspective.

    Im 26, my dad is 44 and I have four kids. my dad lives his best life. i stg i dont know where he is half the time lmao

  11. beck33ers Avatar

    Congrats! I’m 39 and trying to get pregnant now. Had a miscarriage back in January. By the time I get pregnant, I will be at least 40 when I deliver. It is definitely becoming more common!! 😁

  12. middleagerioter Avatar

    I ask this as a woman older than you–Why did you decide to have a baby right before going through the absolute hell of perimenopause when your energy will be sapped, your patience for bullshit reduced to almost nonexistent, and all of the other lovely symptoms that go along with it?

  13. hustlehound Avatar

    Congratulations! You’re giving me hope ❤️

  14. Distinct_Muffin_5052 Avatar

    I had my son when I was 38 ..getting pregnant was my issue..During my pregnancy it was easy I men no morning sickness or being uncomfortable. However I did have gastional diabetes and had to give myself insulin 2 times a day..other than that a breeze..looking back I should’ve gotten pregnant right away..cause now I’m 51 and to old.

  15. GroundbreakingBoot34 Avatar

    Congratulations my mum had me at 18 and my little brother at 40 lol.
    Do you think you could have been as good a parent had you been a younger parent?

  16. BackgroundBat7732 Avatar

    Fun fact: Since 2023 more woman over 40 in the US are giving birth than women under 20.

  17. jmsst1996 Avatar

    I had my first child at 25 and I was completely exhausted. I had morning sickness every single day of the pregnancy. I’m 50 now and when I turned 40 I noticed a definite difference in my stamina and I couldn’t sit on the floor as long like when I was in my 20’s which was something I always did with my kids when we were playing board games etc. Do you feel you might not be up for running around outside with your child when they get a little older? I remember my son loved being outside all the time running around. I don’t know if I would have been up for that in my 40’s.

  18. Cautious-Item-1487 Avatar

    Damnnnnnn, congratulations