F30. I changed my diet about 2 months about and about 2 weeks in noticed my sex drive disappeared. Like I just can’t be bothered even with my fwb. Usually when my sex drive has disappeared before it’s because I had a shit boyfriend who made sex all about him. But I’ve been single for almost a year and I’m generally happy with the rest of my life. I also haven’t been looking for someone to date and even anyone I consider hooking up with as soon as they start to enjoy me even a little I’m like ok bye.
I know everyone is going to tell me to have my hormones checked and I already did and cortisol and everything were normal. I’m not stressed, it’s been a pretty chill time at work lately. Honestly everything is calm and the blood work says I’m ok so just curious if anyone else has ever gone through this?
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Same here, but I’m M40
F30. As I’ve gotten older, my interest in sex has diminished. Not to sound braggy, but I’ve had my fair share of flings, FWB situations, and one-night stands, and at this point, the idea of being intimate with someone I don’t feel emotionally connected to holds no appeal. On top of that, dating these days feels like a hassle, so I haven’t even bothered.
49M here. My gf has a libido that is off the charts. I have no choice but to keep up with her. Having the right partner makes all the difference.
I (33F) just came out of a severe dry spell (3 years) and you know what was the cause? Birth control pill- that I had been on for 19 years. I thought it was other new meds that had started when my drive tanked, but it was a simple correlation. Are you on any birth control perhaps? Might not be as obvious as you think- you think it’s horses but it’s really zebras, or whatever.
People go through all sorts of phases in their life. This happened to me for a couple of months in 2021 when I started getting into hiking (never really exercised before). I just couldn’t be fucked and I didn’t care to care, and I usually have a high libido. It came back eventually, but it wasn’t a terrible feeling when it was gone. I was largely satisfied.
It happened to me last year when I started cutting and changed my diet. :/ I find my partner attractive, sure, but I’m not like I was 5 years ago.
36f here idk why but mines stronger than when I was 18
Mine didn’t disappear as much as I stopped forcing myself to view the world in the lens of attraction. It happened in my 30s, as well. I had a great partner. Life was good. I wasn’t stressed out. I just didn’t feel the need anymore.
I checked everything, changed my birth control, my ssri. Eventually I had to admit I had a low sex drive and that it was normal and okay.
Histamines do it for me. When my allergies are bad, my sex drive is high. When I take an antihistamine, it normalizes. My diet does the same thing. Foods that cause me inflammation, like carbs and acidic foods, make my libido higher. A better diet normalizes it.
If you’ve cut calories that can definitely be it
Unless your new diet was prescribed to you by a doctor then just switch back and see if that changes anything. Even if switching back isn’t a feasible long term solution it will help you narrow down the cause. If it was prescribed by a doctor then absolutely tell that doctor if you haven’t already. It’s possible this is a symptom of a more serious problem that may not show up on common blood tests.
I’m a male, 10 years older than you and mine is still the same as it was when I was a teenager. Maybe it’s different for men?
I took an antidepressant when my wife went into hospice some years back. It completely nerfed my sex drive. Stress makes/made me extremely horny so it was a blessing at the time.
Mine took a nose dive right around the time I started having thyroid issues due to graves disease. Now I am also anemic, and I am so tired from both of those things that even the thought of having sex is exhausting. I hate it