I don’t believe in going on dates.
I’ve never asked out anyone on a date. I’ve always asked them if they’d like to hang out some time.
I feel like the word “date” makes people act in unnatural ways i,e, calling each other terms of endearment, complimenting each other’s appearance (“you’re cute,” “you’re beautiful,” etc.), kissing, or trying hard to impress each other before theyeven know mch about each other.
To me, all of that feels shallow, meaningless and proformative if it happens without an established platonic bond.
This is why I think hanging out is better than going on dates.
Hanging out allows people to actually get to know each other and become build a plaontc connection rather than immediately evaluating whether they’re “romantically compatible.”
By hanigng out wiht someone you slowly get to know them in low pressure enviroments and become a part of their life and meet the other people who are also their lives without any pressure.
It allows you ad the other person to both be yourselves without any pressure or exceptations.
I feel like it also gives you the chance to know who they are as a person,
It also gets rid of the unspoken rules that come with dating, like how long you’re “supposed” to wait before texting, who should pay, or what milestones should happen by when.
Hanging out removes all that pressure and expectation, making space for something more authentic.
When you hang out, you’re not “performing” romance. You’re just being yourself, and if anything deeper grows from that, it’s rooted in something real.