I don’t have many freinds at all near where I live. Recently, I’ve befriended one of the other dads at my daughters school. We have a lot in common – similar age, similar profession and we both have pre-school girls who make excellent play-dates. But he also happens to be the ex-husband of my wife’s best friend. They split maybe 5 years ago and since then he’s moved on, remarried and has young children. As far as I’m concerned his personal life is absolutely none of my business and I’m just glad to have found another guy to hang out with and a play date for my daughter. But my wife’s friend has found out and is not happy and thinks its some sort of loyalty issue. It’s caused a bit of tension and my wife is very much stuck in the middle. She has expressed her disapproval although has not gone as far as to ask me not to be friends with him as she can understand the positive impact its had on me.
Any thoughts or comments? I have no interest in talking to him about his previous marriage – its none of my business and I also think its none of his ex-wife’s business who he hangs out with. And I don’t appreciate my wife being made to feel like this by her so-called friend. Am I being reasonable?
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You’re not being unreasonable. Friendships can form independently of past relationships. Prioritize your happiness.
you are not obligated to be loyal to your wife’s best friend. she is being unrealistic in thinking the entire world should shun that guy. This is of course there is something that you have not mentioned such as abuse.
Your wife and her friend should stay out of it, You have a right to have friends. Did he beat her or cheat on her? If not, tell her to STFU and leave you alone.
Your wife’s BFF doesn’t get to pick your friends. It isn’t like they have to cross paths, and it’s really a pretty basic level friendship. More for the kids at times even.
This wasn’t someone you met through the wife’s friend, you met him naturally, all is well.
Wife’s friends needs to mind her own business.