Yeah, depression can totally suck the life right out of your libido. There was a phase where I was basically in “airplane mode”—no sex drive, no interest in intimacy, just numb. It wasn’t a conscious choice; it was depression doing its thing. What eventually helped was reaching out for some professional help—therapy and really focusing on self-care. It was a slow, messy process of just learning to feel again rather than forcing anything. Every little win counted, and eventually, the spark started to come back. Not a magic fix, but a reminder that taking care of your mental health is where it all begins.
Also my prolactin reached high levels and i needed to shut it down with meds
Yes. However it’s also extremely likely linked to a lack of testosterone. Mine was. Environmental factors are killing testosterone in men.
I’m on trt… id say avoid that if you can. Its a last effort because of side effects and basically life long dedication. Go get your testosterone tested at your doctor. If its below 300 ng/dl you need to do something about that.
Try to get on enclomiphene, not chlomid. Way less side effects than anything else.
Yes, I have no drive, but it’s okay ..I don’t think there’s anyone I want to have sex with anymore. I dint think there is any getting better unless Lani Tupu or Alan Tudyk appear and ask me to test out their penile thrusting game.
For me for while yes and therapy and medication self focus also very patient partners ( I was in a ploy relationship ) take it slow. Now I have a high sex drive 😅 and my partner ( just who stay from ploy relationship) he happy I very confirmable with him.
Yes depression can do this. But so can other things including hormone irregularities.
The most asexual I’ve ever felt is after taking gnrh analogues to completely shut off testosterone production for 3 months. After 1 jab it took the bones of a year for my sex drive to recover. (Surprisingly testosterone inhibitors that don’t block testosterone production didn’t have even nearly the same level of effect)
Main reason I’m saying this is that I experienced a different libido drop from depression compared to testosterone suppression and it’s the difference between having to turn the key a few times to start the car, and absolutely no response from the car at all. Like with depression I was still able to go solo with some effort even if I didn’t have the drive to seek out sex with a partner. With testosterone eradication you could have dropped me in an orgy with all the sexiest people I’ve ever crushed on and I would have politely excused myself. I stopped dressing in anything that could be considered stylish, and dressed purely for function. I had none of the apathy or sense of despair that went with depression. I still did all my daily tasks with ease and still enjoyed all my hobbies. It was like the part of me that related to anything sexual was in a coma and I couldn’t wake it up if my life depended on it.
So I got to truly experience what asexuality is, and it feels very different from a low sex drive due to depression. So if you feel like this, get your bloods checked. Some serious medical conditions can have the exact same effect obliterating testosterone/oestrogen. And even if you feel depressed and think it’s that, you could be depressed but also have hormone deficiency, testosterone or oestrogen deficiency can lead to depression after all.
Also, as others have said, some antidepressants such as ssri’s and snri’s can cause low libido, inability to get an erection, and/or inability to reach orgasm. Escitalopram and venlafaxine are two of the biggest offenders, but also sertraline fluoxetine duloxetine and paroxetins. One of the medications in this category that has the lowest impact on sexual function is vortioxetine. If you do need to go on an antidepressant and sexual function is important to you right now, you could discuss vortioxetine which may be an option for you.
When I collapsed, I had zero interest in women/crushes (mainly because I didn’t want them to see me like that, still I didn’t manage it). I scarcely masturbated. So, I see it as yes, even though I don’t think I was depressed.
Yes
So far haven’t figured out how to fix it. I thought it was caused by my mental state from being in a very toxic relationship and thought it would increase when i left but nope so at a loss now 😅😅
Quite the opposite.
Coupled with self-loathing, it has made me an addict of most forms of hedonistic escapism.
Far from limited to just sex.
That said; have you ever snorted cocaine out of the dimples over someone’s ass?
Me personally in my experience my depression made me not have any kind of value to anyone. And it’s seriously been way too long so I’ve come to a point where i guess I just don’t care for it anymore.
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No only work had managed that.
It’s been a constant challenge my entire life. Hypersexual but physically nothing works right.
Yeah, depression can totally suck the life right out of your libido. There was a phase where I was basically in “airplane mode”—no sex drive, no interest in intimacy, just numb. It wasn’t a conscious choice; it was depression doing its thing. What eventually helped was reaching out for some professional help—therapy and really focusing on self-care. It was a slow, messy process of just learning to feel again rather than forcing anything. Every little win counted, and eventually, the spark started to come back. Not a magic fix, but a reminder that taking care of your mental health is where it all begins.
Also my prolactin reached high levels and i needed to shut it down with meds
yes i’ve experienced this so many times the only thing that helped was getting a little high beforehand. really helped put me in the mood
my partner is thankfully really understanding
Yes. Antidepressants + 10K steps per day. Now, no antidepressants, still do the 10K steps
Lexapro did.
Yes, I’m severely lonely
Not really sure
Nah. I think it heightened it.
Yes and no.
My drive to have actual sex yes, my drive to mastubate no, the opposite I did it more the more depressed I was
What did it cure? No porn and no mastubating.
I became addicted to porn and cutting this of gave me back my drive.
Yes. However it’s also extremely likely linked to a lack of testosterone. Mine was. Environmental factors are killing testosterone in men.
I’m on trt… id say avoid that if you can. Its a last effort because of side effects and basically life long dedication. Go get your testosterone tested at your doctor. If its below 300 ng/dl you need to do something about that.
Try to get on enclomiphene, not chlomid. Way less side effects than anything else.
Yup absolutely. Antidepressants gave me most of my emotions back, but sadly not the horny.
Medication (Lexapro) for depression has killed my sex drive, and I’m still working on how to get back to where I was.
Yep. Lifestyle and medication changes helped. Still below expected though.
Yes, I have no drive, but it’s okay ..I don’t think there’s anyone I want to have sex with anymore. I dint think there is any getting better unless Lani Tupu or Alan Tudyk appear and ask me to test out their penile thrusting game.
For me for while yes and therapy and medication self focus also very patient partners ( I was in a ploy relationship ) take it slow. Now I have a high sex drive 😅 and my partner ( just who stay from ploy relationship) he happy I very confirmable with him.
Suicidal thoughts can do it too
Yes depression can do this. But so can other things including hormone irregularities.
The most asexual I’ve ever felt is after taking gnrh analogues to completely shut off testosterone production for 3 months. After 1 jab it took the bones of a year for my sex drive to recover. (Surprisingly testosterone inhibitors that don’t block testosterone production didn’t have even nearly the same level of effect)
Main reason I’m saying this is that I experienced a different libido drop from depression compared to testosterone suppression and it’s the difference between having to turn the key a few times to start the car, and absolutely no response from the car at all. Like with depression I was still able to go solo with some effort even if I didn’t have the drive to seek out sex with a partner. With testosterone eradication you could have dropped me in an orgy with all the sexiest people I’ve ever crushed on and I would have politely excused myself. I stopped dressing in anything that could be considered stylish, and dressed purely for function. I had none of the apathy or sense of despair that went with depression. I still did all my daily tasks with ease and still enjoyed all my hobbies. It was like the part of me that related to anything sexual was in a coma and I couldn’t wake it up if my life depended on it.
So I got to truly experience what asexuality is, and it feels very different from a low sex drive due to depression. So if you feel like this, get your bloods checked. Some serious medical conditions can have the exact same effect obliterating testosterone/oestrogen. And even if you feel depressed and think it’s that, you could be depressed but also have hormone deficiency, testosterone or oestrogen deficiency can lead to depression after all.
Also, as others have said, some antidepressants such as ssri’s and snri’s can cause low libido, inability to get an erection, and/or inability to reach orgasm. Escitalopram and venlafaxine are two of the biggest offenders, but also sertraline fluoxetine duloxetine and paroxetins. One of the medications in this category that has the lowest impact on sexual function is vortioxetine. If you do need to go on an antidepressant and sexual function is important to you right now, you could discuss vortioxetine which may be an option for you.
When I collapsed, I had zero interest in women/crushes (mainly because I didn’t want them to see me like that, still I didn’t manage it). I scarcely masturbated. So, I see it as yes, even though I don’t think I was depressed.
Yes
So far haven’t figured out how to fix it. I thought it was caused by my mental state from being in a very toxic relationship and thought it would increase when i left but nope so at a loss now 😅😅
It’s never get better> it’s you rise from that attachments i guess
Never i am on hgh 😜😜 iykyk
Quite the opposite.
Coupled with self-loathing, it has made me an addict of most forms of hedonistic escapism.
Far from limited to just sex.
That said; have you ever snorted cocaine out of the dimples over someone’s ass?
Me personally in my experience my depression made me not have any kind of value to anyone. And it’s seriously been way too long so I’ve come to a point where i guess I just don’t care for it anymore.