3 years. He was very selfish in bed and I didn’t know how detrimental that was until later being with someone who is not that way and only cares about my happiness and satisfaction.
Sometimes the sex was so unenjoyable and painful that I was in genuine fear
Years, the longest was 2 years beyond normal, but weirdly we were both feeling whatever and it happened over covid. Sexual satisfaction is consistent when other tenants of my and my partner’s lives are satisfied. So when things are rocky altogether, or needs outside of sex are not stable, I lose libido faster than I anticipate.
I realize that can be a me-thing though and can really just be incompatibility with another person. But Im now getting better at trying to acknowledge or address other aspects of my life, including stuff like hormones, blood panel, stress, etc before thinking its my partner thats the issue.
Its something I will continue to disclose in a relationship — we absolutely need to be a good match before being serious and exclusive, otherwise Im gonna be feeling low libido if my partner’s life is in shambles. Definitely not my favorite part of myself, being able to compartmentalize stress like that in order to sexually show up for myself and my partner, but Im not getting any younger!!!
Most recently 2 months, I’m at a point where I’m prioritizing sex in my romantic relationships and while there was intimacy the sex was unfulfilling and I was restless and realized it wouldn’t work longer term. There were other mismatches but this is the one relevant to your question.
Looking back – the sex in my marriage was not good but I had no frame of reference then.
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Stayed for 2 years and that was too long. I regret not leaving earlier!
3 years. He was very selfish in bed and I didn’t know how detrimental that was until later being with someone who is not that way and only cares about my happiness and satisfaction.
Sometimes the sex was so unenjoyable and painful that I was in genuine fear
I stayed for 8 years 😭
Years, the longest was 2 years beyond normal, but weirdly we were both feeling whatever and it happened over covid. Sexual satisfaction is consistent when other tenants of my and my partner’s lives are satisfied. So when things are rocky altogether, or needs outside of sex are not stable, I lose libido faster than I anticipate.
I realize that can be a me-thing though and can really just be incompatibility with another person. But Im now getting better at trying to acknowledge or address other aspects of my life, including stuff like hormones, blood panel, stress, etc before thinking its my partner thats the issue.
Its something I will continue to disclose in a relationship — we absolutely need to be a good match before being serious and exclusive, otherwise Im gonna be feeling low libido if my partner’s life is in shambles. Definitely not my favorite part of myself, being able to compartmentalize stress like that in order to sexually show up for myself and my partner, but Im not getting any younger!!!
Most recently 2 months, I’m at a point where I’m prioritizing sex in my romantic relationships and while there was intimacy the sex was unfulfilling and I was restless and realized it wouldn’t work longer term. There were other mismatches but this is the one relevant to your question.
Looking back – the sex in my marriage was not good but I had no frame of reference then.
When I was younger. I thought my body was messed up and maybe I just couldn’t reach the point I wanted to. I would never, ever do it now.
I stayed for 3 years but he was an amazing person. Long distance was the reason we split.