23m, currently in a rut. No job, sleeping all day & staying up all night. Depressed & anxious, haven’t seen my friends in 3 years, haven’t heard back from the places i’ve applied to.. what do i do?
Have you ever been in a rut? How did you get out of it?
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No, but it sounds like you need to digital detox. No screens. Start applying to jobs and socializing or doing outside things.
One step at a time. Do just one small thing for yourself tomorrow–something you know you should be doing. Go from there. Sometimes in the middle of depression, one thing is all you can do.
Create a routine and stick to it like it’s your full-time job. Try to go to bed and get up at a reasonable time, eat clean, keep your room clean, go for a walk, apply to jobs, go to the gym, etc.
You start doing each of these things for only 30 minutes a day and then gradually increase how long you spend investing in yourself until it becomes a habit and you don’t even think about whether you want to do it or not.
I was and unfortunately it took it getting really bad before it got better. If i were to give advice it would be for you to want something. Find something you truly want. It could be a job, gf, friends, hobby or a degree. Pick a goal and always be pursuing at least one goal.
Also take 15 minutes in the morning and reflect. What did i like or dislike that i did yesterday? What do i want now? What can i do today to work towards it?
Remember that time goes faster every year, it can’t be returned. And answer yourself the question, do you want to spend it this way?
We live one life. There won’t be another one.
I got wireless earpods, and started listening to podcasts. Then I could disconnect from screens. If you’re broke a transistor radio works; I had mine on NPR for the longest time.
The lack of friends killed most of my relationships, and they never reconnected. I think I could land a job, but I’m not happy doing it.
Yes. It wasn’t for long time, but I remember one day just waking up from that state and just walk out in the sunshine. Simply put, I was tired of that shit ande decided to move on.
how do yall pay rent and stuff with this lifestyle