Have you ever broken up with somebody you still love? If so, then why?

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Have you ever broken up with somebody you still love? If so, then why?

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  1. Practical-Ask-7384 Avatar

    Yes because he was so controlling and I left my Muslim family before they were controlling to so if I left them why would I stay with someone who’s controlling to

  2. diamondmaking Avatar

    Yes. Moving to different parts of the country. Both of us were clear the a long distance relationship wasn’t gonna work.

  3. cursedbyhercum Avatar

    Yes. When you prioritize your partner and love them unconditionally and you finally realize after being slapped in the face with it for years that you’re not even a consideration in their life especially when they make massive life decisions, you gather your self respect and you walk.

  4. ForgottenRager Avatar

    Absolutely, they were my first physical partner, sometimes I miss them, however I know they hate my guts & they will never be the same person I wanted to be with again.

  5. notover_thinking Avatar

    Yes, because it’s not working anymore.

  6. Livid_Appearance5390 Avatar

    Yes… We were together for 11 years. We were both addicts & I got clean & he just couldn’t do it. He went to prison, got out, cheated on me & started physically/emotionally abusing me… I don’t know why but a small part of me STILL loves him…

  7. xiintegriityx Avatar

    In the end, did more for strangers to get their validation than for me; the only person who supported her financially, emotionally etc.

  8. New_Reach6531 Avatar

    Yes. I had been cheated for 11 years when I found it out. Breaking up was the only solution.

  9. COskibunnie Avatar

    Yes, because I have too much trauma and can’t handle romantic relationships

  10. SparkleCat03 Avatar

    Yes. After all the love, effort and affection I gave him he couldn’t figure out how to care for me back. We both still love each other and it sucks

  11. GenghisKhan72 Avatar

    Yes , we grew apart , moved to different cities , different paths away from being together

  12. BoDiddyBopBop Avatar

    Yes. She thought she was in ‘love’ with more people than just me, so I moved on.

  13. SocrataFi Avatar

    Every person I’ve ever broken up with and was serious with I still loved. Just because you broke up with someone doesn’t mean the love is gone. You just know it’s not going to work out for xyz reason.

  14. No_Vacation_3210 Avatar

    Yes. We moved in together and I realized we weren’t all that compatible in our day-to-day lives.

  15. Connect_Bathroom_257 Avatar

    Yes. She was absolutely perfect. She bought me roses, would pay for my meals (no matter how much I’d offer to pay), constantly check up on me and was with me during my cancer diagnosis, and she was just a super nice person in general.

    Then there were signs that she was controlling. She didn’t like when I would hang up on FaceTime first because she said it “bugs” her so she always had to be the one that hung up. She also had an incredibly high sex drive which a lot of men would love but I’m waiting until marriage for religious reasons. She’d constantly push that boundary and wouldn’t respect what I wanted so that alone showed that she wouldn’t listen to me and do what she wanted instead. She’d also gaslight me. She’d say that nastiest things to me and when I’d address them later, she’d say, “I never said that. When and where specifically did I say that”. There was just a lot of things that showed me that she was going to be a nightmare down the road even though she had so many positive qualities.

    The real kicker was that she’d constantly mention her ex. She even called me by his name a few times.

  16. BC_Arctic_Fox Avatar

    Yes, because I needed to love me more.

    Loving someone who does not have the capacity to love in return – fucking heartbreaking

  17. falr687 Avatar

    She was/is amazing and deserved better than me. It was mutual. She now has a beautiful family and I’m so happy for her. We’re still very good friends. ❤️

  18. lingeringneutrophil Avatar

    Because they didn’t love me back (or certainly weren’t as emotionally attached and invested as I was.)

    There has to be a balance when it comes to emotional commitment at certain stage of the relationship, and if it’s not there by then, it never will be

  19. hopefulrefuse1974 Avatar

    Because his kids were entitled brats. Especially his son. And father pandered to it.
    Am a parent. I know the difference between entitled and respectful.

  20. Suspicious_Ad2351 Avatar

    Yes. He was physically abusive and I left knowing if I didn’t he would absolutely end up killing me

  21. Famous_Mind_216 Avatar

    Im on the verge of breaking up with someone I love deeply. He supports me financially, but I have to beg for his affection and later on I found out that he doesn’t understand the need for touch in a relationship and im just dumbfounded

  22. Mudder1310 Avatar

    Yes. They sucked as a person. But you know…the heart wants…

  23. Hot_Willingness_6341 Avatar

    Yes. Sometimes you leave because you have to choose yourself, even though it shatters your heart.
    Sometimes you leave because you deserve better, and loving them also means loving yourself enough to walk away.
    And sometimes you leave because staying would only keep wounding both of you, slowly.

  24. TeamLeeper Avatar

    More than once. But when you see where things are headed, sometimes it’s better to call it quits while you’re still civil.

  25. Helpful-Insurance933 Avatar

    In fact he broke up with me, I prioritized him in everything, in my head he also prioritized me and loved me as he said, but one day he simply decided to break up and told me it was because he saw some of his attitudes in me

  26. freakish_freak Avatar

    Yes. Because she realized she was a lesbian.

  27. proudblackwoman5 Avatar

    She was controlling every aspect of my life. Couldn’t have female friends. She had to be by my side every second of the day, and I was honestly sick of how obsessed she was with me. I couldn’t even watch movies that had pretty girls in it. There were many things I had to give up because she was jealous and territorial. She wouldn’t even let me masturbate on my own time, even when she wasn’t in the mood for sex (because I could be secretly cheating in my fantasies)

    Then boom! She started throwing drama tantrums in public and faking being abused for attention. I decided I was worth more and broke it off and she immediately went and fucked every skinny white trash guy around

  28. Recent_Fill_581 Avatar

    Yes I have. Had to because I could see that her goals for life were way different than mine. I was willing to help her with hers but when it came to mine she was not willing to help me. Could not see it working in the long run so had to go our separate ways. Still friends though.

  29. Personal-Birthday579 Avatar

    Yes, because he wasn’t ever there for me. He was no support and he resented me for some reason. After everything I did for him. It still galls me. I had to eventually look out for myself and end it. 

  30. thefrozenflame21 Avatar

    We both loved each other but were so incompatible that the relationship just sucked to be in for both of us, did a lot more bad for my mental health than good and probably for hers too although I can’t totally speak for her.
    Overall still have no issue with her shit happens.

  31. CptTrizzle Avatar

    Simple. They didn’t love me back. Sucked, and still does.

  32. Shoddy_Nectarine_441 Avatar

    Yeah, still hurts. I was putting too much effort in and getting little in return, due to his mental health. We weren’t compatible in the long game, we loved a lot of the same things and enjoyed each others company but I felt dismisssed and sometimes he wanted me around but not actually hang out with me (like I’d be at his house but he’d sleep in or decompress for hours in his room while I just kind of twiddled my thumbs). I also spent my 21st birthday alone even though I was technically with him. Bought my own first drink and had lunch alone. To this day I still love him but I don’t regret leaving.

  33. FigureItOutIdk Avatar

    Here come all the complaining women

  34. Shh-poster Avatar

    Wait. Do you mean at the time when I broke up with them or now? Yes.

  35. TobiasReaperB Avatar

    Yeah, I fought for the relationship while they continued to sabotage it and play dumb about it. Manipulative gaslighter…

    I had to leave for our kid and my mental and emotional health.

  36. spirit_of_a_goat Avatar

    Yes. He was abusive. I was leaving in a car or a coffin. I chose the car.

  37. Peachpettal Avatar

    I love them but our personalities are way too different and I can’t change him even if I change for him, he won’t change for you

  38. -J4ckJens3n- Avatar

    She was manipulated by her “best friend” which she has known less than we were in the relationship

  39. SkySands666 Avatar

    We broke up after 5 years of a bad relationship, there was no fixing it. I thought I loved him, but I realized after a little while that he never loved me and I never loved him. So it was easy to let go of my ex. I am glad he is my ex. I have a new partner who is amazing and the love with us I know is real. I am much happier now.

  40. Adorable_Dust3799 Avatar

    We just weren’t good for each other.

  41. Agile_Active6496 Avatar

    Its an obvious one but he didnt want children anymore and i did. Painful but had to be done.

  42. Competitive-Act830 Avatar

    Of course, but doesn’t change the fact there toxic 🤷🏻‍♂️

  43. Emergency-Goat-4249 Avatar

    Not a viable candidate for a healthy relationship

  44. KennyDROmega Avatar

    I was still pretty young, and as much as I loved her I found myself still really wanting to fuck her friends.

    If we’d gotten married, feel like it’d be maybe 2-3 years before we’d have an argument, I’d tell her she’d ruined my chance to have fun, and things would never be the same even if we somehow stayed together.

  45. fifibunkin Avatar

    I loved the idea of him. The hardest part was losing this fantasy I built around him that I loved the idea of being with him and the idea of us together. But I was in love with the man that I first met. The easiest part was breaking up with being scared all the time and fearing for my safety. It was hard to stay focused on the fact that who I was breaking up with was not who I first fell in love with. But in the end I had to do what was right for me. Surrounding myself with family helped the most. I ended up realizing I was morning a relationship with someone who never actually existed. It was all a facade to hide his true self.

  46. flamingoastro Avatar

    Yes. He was arrested for DV. I love him so much, it hurts. But no one will ever put that kind of fear in me again.

  47. HASH_SLING_SLASH Avatar

    I’m nearing that decision now. She’s so wonderful in so many ways and I still love her very much. But years of small things are adding up to become resentment, bitterness, and contempt. Even when i try to talk about things in a calm, constructive way, they end up becoming fights. We barely even talk anymore and she feels like a roommate at this point. We still go to events together to keep up appearances but she’s threatening that she will move out at the end of the month and I’m at the point where I’m not gonna fight it anymore.

  48. kartoshki514 Avatar

    We ultimately had very different ideas of what would happen if we got married. She did not want to be monogamous, and I did, and I could not handle that.

  49. Provolone10 Avatar

    They didn’t love me.

  50. Subject_Beginning_16 Avatar

    Yes, I waited for a long time for him to leave his family (poor country, no job opportunities for him or definitely not me as I don’t know the language), he was very attached to them so I thought it would be better for him and myself to break up. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. He was trying to get back together for a long time which made it only harder. I still think I made the right choice although I did love him very much. Kindest person I’ve ever met in my life.

  51. KornHusker11 Avatar

    Yep. I’m in the middle of breaking up with my fiance right now. She wants to be fulfilled by other people and I’m not a doormat.

  52. Previous-Emu-6713 Avatar

    Yes because they decided they weren’t going to work, weren’t going to cook, wouldn’t apply for food assistance or go to the food bank. They would’t do anything in the relationship or household and when I told them I was draining my savings account trying to keep the bills paid on my own and needed them to get a job; they told me if I couldn’t efford the bills then I should go back to school so I can get a new job…
    So I let the rental go, broke up with them, moved back home and am currently half way through an associates degree. They were a great influence in all of the wrong ways.

    (Jsyk they WERE NOT disabled. Just decided they wanted to smoke weed all day and be taken care of.)

  53. WiserWildWoman Avatar

    Twice. Love isn’t all you need.

  54. Roadkill_Ramen Avatar

    We both loved each other but both had traits that hurt the other one, I couldn’t communicate and articulate my hurt feelings, she tried to look for space and I took it for her not caring.

    It was a complicated decision, but we sat together very long, talking, crying, holding each other and decided to go separate ways. Of course we reached out from time to time but never met again. 2 years later she’s now happy with another man, I spend my time traveling and doing sports.

  55. Toyznthehood Avatar

    Yeah, they wanted me to get rid of my dog.

  56. Asleep_Age_4255 Avatar

    Yes, we broke up because she was in the closet and I was not. It meant I could never meet her friends or family or show affection in public or spend too much time together. She would set a timer on her phone when we hung out so she didn’t spend too much time with me. I wasn’t allowed to go to birthday parties or dinner parties or any part of her life like that.

    It broke my heart to end it with her

  57. LogEnvironmental8946 Avatar

    Realized she didn’t love me back. Just loved me loving her

  58. jenapoluzi Avatar

    He was much older and I wanted to have a family with children of my own.

  59. WeasersMom14 Avatar

    He didn’t have or make time for me.  We talked about it and he was always reassuring me that “after X” or after “Y” we would have time, it never happened.  As much as I loved him, I left.  My head was in the toilet for some time after.

  60. No_Glass1391 Avatar

    I am afraid that he cheated on me. I moved out but we did remain friends until his death 3 years ago. I married but my husband died nearly 2 years ago, after 37 years married.

  61. Lucky_Veruca Avatar

    I’m about to do that. I’m tired of feeling disposable, unimportant, being blamed for her problems and being put down. She insults my hobbies, hates my personality, verbally told me she doesn’t find me attractive and as time goes on I realized she just wanted a roommate who wouldn’t move out. She cheats on me constantly and when I bring it up she threatens to have the leasing office kick me out and saying how she doesn’t care if I end up homeless. She makes me want to kill myself, she makes me want to drink, she convinced me I’m the problem and I’m just tired of crying every day.

  62. Aromatic_Doctor_7422 Avatar

    I still love my ex even after almost 10 years ago. I had to break it off bwcause we were both broken, we would do anything for eachother and it was a roller coaster of me up and her down and her up and me down and I felt I was ruining her beautiful soul and I needed to deal with my newly diagnosed bipolarism, I needed to be able to do it on my own so I don’t drag people down anymore. I’ve tried dating since but she made the bar so high I haven’t really given it a shot and still single

  63. InsideImprovement842 Avatar

    I loved him, but I realized not romantically, because I’m a lesbian.

  64. GloomyCoffee3225 Avatar

    God was good enough to bless me with two wonderful partners. I have BPD and I didn’t come to grips with it until I had already broken my 2nd partner’s heart. If you truly love them, you have to let them go and  genuinely wish for their happiness. 

    Fortunately for them, they were able to find healthy long term relationships afterwards. One is married with two kids, the other is basically a step mom to her new partner and his two kids, they’ve been together for a while now.  

  65. RetroSaturdaze Avatar

    Yes. My last relationship. I ended the relationship because despite loving him, his chronic depression was too much to bear, as my needs were not being met, even after much communication. It’s been slightly over a year and I am still struggling with it, but I had to do what was best for me. I need a partner who makes me feel loved regardless of their mental state. I still wish him the best and if he reached out at one point in the future, I’d likely respond.

  66. Viviennephoto Avatar

    Yes, because addiction’s a bitch and I can’t save someone who won’t even put on their own life jacket.

  67. Platinuminpink Avatar

    We broke up to pursue our careers.  Silly and young and ambitious.

    More than 10 years later, we are back together for what we call “the remix”.

    I still love everyone I have ever loved.  That doesn’t mean they belong in my life, though.

  68. Objective_Zebra_2563 Avatar

    Timing. Timing really is everything.

  69. Busy_Growth3083 Avatar

    Love isn’t always enough, you also need trust and respect.

  70. mistress_patty55 Avatar

    They were really mature and kind and good looking and honestly a gentleman.He was ready to settle down and start a family.i want the same but not atm.i had told him that from the beginning coz he had made his intentions clear.i just feel it’s too soon.barely known him for months.i lost my job,mom got sick I had to go shags take care of her and thing’s just fell apart.i think he just got tired and he began being avoidant.me naye hukubali reality haraka nikanyamaza tu iishe.the truth I loved him and what we had was beautiful lakini si dust ni constant.Inauma😂🥺

  71. Difficult_Ad1474 Avatar

    Because our values shifted too much. I will always love him for certain things but I am not in love with him and he was no longer my best friend.