I’ve noticed that there seems to be a lot more overt objectification of men online and in media than there used to be
It makes me uncomfortable, based on how I’ve felt as a woman
So I’m curious how often men notice and are bothered by it
I’ve noticed that there seems to be a lot more overt objectification of men online and in media than there used to be
It makes me uncomfortable, based on how I’ve felt as a woman
So I’m curious how often men notice and are bothered by it
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There always has been, it just hasn’t been talked about much and is overshadowed by how women are treated. But even back in the 90s young men where objectified. Look at young 90s stars like Brad Pitt and Brendan Fraser. And to a degree older men too (“silver fox”).
I’m a ginger man with a beard that swings an ax at charity events, yes I feel objectified.
I lived in East Asia for a decade. I slept with a lot of women. I don’t think most acted like I was an exotic experience or something that they could giggle about later, although who knows the private thoughts of anyone. Some definitely did and even maid some pretty wildly questionable comments during intercourse that would get a person canceled in North America if the roles were reversed.
It never bothered me, but I could totally understand if it bothered someone else, especially if, unlike me, such (albeit positive-ish) objectification and stereotyping started in youth instead of at 24, when I already had a strong ego mostly impervious to such things.
sure, don’t care. objectify me all you want. at least you’re acknowledging my existence
I got cat called at the grocery store by a man yesterday…guy stopped and lookede up and down as I walked by…it was pretty uncomfortable…I’m a 6’1 man 220lbs…and I felt tiny after that
Yes. At work and elsewhere.
I’ve had my arse grabbed a few times in bars
20 years ago I posted a picture online and a woman said I looked sexy, and I still remember it.
It’s the closest I’ve come to being objectified, online or in person, in my entire life.
I never thought anyone would ask this question; much less than an answer would immediately pop into my head.
Men are not supposed to mind being objectified or fetishized. And honestly, for the most part we don’t.
From around 2010 until the pandemic, I literally stumbled into the habit of dating women much younger than myself. Blame it on my discovery of dating apps, and the simple demographic of that path. There were a lot of younger women and not as many older men.
I’m not here looking for sympathy, and surely not to brag, but I have to say that after a while it was not the Shangri-La that I had imagined it would be.
I think a lot of younger women fetishize older men, and get into relationships with them because it’s an itch they wanted to scratch.
The problem is, it’s just that, and nothing more. After several relationships where the woman was more than happy to use me as a way to shock their friends, but wouldn’t have dreamed of ever letting me meet their family, the shine rather wore off that particular adventure.
Over the course of the covid era, I stopped dating altogether, and have only recently started up again. I don’t think I’ll be dating women outside my normal pool anymore. I have just come to a place in my life where I don’t want to be anyone’s kink.
lol no. Been invisible since about 40.
I’ve felt used for money and felt like affection towards me was faked for different intentions than was expressed (used).
I couldn’t care less about the objectification of the male form aside for how it shapes what many define as attractive. I do have problems with all men being lumped in together with the worst of men as it tends to lead to bigotry.
Yes I have. No it does not make me uncomfortable.
Have never met any chubby chasers, no.
Yes, I’ve seen and felt it happen, but it’s not too hard to avoid those people/situations once identified.
And to be perfectly honest, I don’t mind being objectified (to a point), but being fetishized is a serious problem.
I’m at that age where I’m the younger guy that cougars want and the older guy that younger girls want. Soooo
I once had someone tell me they were into me because they were into fat older guys and kept going on about how I was fat. I dont mind being fat or old but it was pretty uncomfortable.
Finally, vent time. I’m gay- I don’t go out of my way to make it completely known and I’m not wrapped up in the community. I would rate myself slightly above average as far as looks compared to the community, below average in the straight community.
It bothers me to my core when I get unsolicited flirting or just subtle comments that are sly in nature— like everyone knows what you’re doing but you’re putting me in a position where I either have to flirt back, tell you off, or ignore it hoping that it goes away knowing damn well I’m in a relationship or, in the past when single, I barely know you. It’s so uncomfortable. In those cases where it has happened, it’s usually people who have no idea how much of a mess of a person I actually am and don’t know a single thing about me. Nonetheless, I find it difficult to trust people in the community for fear that there are ulterior motives.
It rarely happens so when it does, we love it and revel in it.
I was a white kid in Japan in 1999. Id have random Japanese girls run up and ask to take a photo and for my autograph.
I lived in Beijing in my 20s. Old ladies would grab my junk on the subway. Dudes would glance over in the urinal and I’d get side jobs for having the qualification of being white. I was at a meeting one time when the people around me kept asking me how big I am. I may have shown the group of them out of frustration.
It’s such a turn off when some pretty girl is into you just because of the color of your skin. It’s fun at first, but damn does it get tiresome. It makes you feel like you aren’t as valuable as what you are. It’s kind of depressing.
Not at all. I’m 37 and it’s not as frequent as it used to be, but it’s usually older women that do it. I’ve had my ass grabbed, been hit on by coworkers, flirted with by random strangers, etc. Once on vacation while smoking outside of the hotel, I was propositioned by some random cougar who was trying to get me into the pool and then up to her room (If I wasn’t married, I probably would’ve taken her up on that). To be honest, I’ve always found it flattering and it tends to boost my self esteem. Just my own perspective from my own personal experiences though.
Did you just watch the Robert video as well?
But… yes i have
I feel like there’s a lot of pressure (and tbh, the desire) on men, and young men in particular, to show off their physique on social media (gains, glow upsm..etc). A lot of male influencers seem to find excuses to go shirtless at any opportunity (“how to style this sneaker” “grwm” and even random recipes are not free of surprise and random shirtlessness sometimes!)
I think this kind of objectification does have mental health consequences for young men, as teens and young men are increasingly developing eating disorders that are often praised as “healthy habits.” However, I don’t think objectification of this kind carry the same kind of social stigma as it does for women. Quite the opposite, young men with outstanding physiques seem to garner them a lot of respect and admiration from both men and women in society, as they are seen as masculine, disciplined, and in control of their lives, rather than promiscuous.
Not really. My sister’s gay friends, my first wife’s gay friend, and my second wife’s gay friend always asked about me. So there is that…
I’m a tall, heavily tattooed guy that gets regularly fetishized by weird conservative women with daddy issues. It sucks.
And where would one go to be objectified? Asking for … myself. I’m objecti-curious.
Girl, I’m an old cishet white male, I’m only objectified and getting fucked in job-related metaphors. I’m a cog during 1/3 of my time and I’m asleep another 1/3.
Yes I have been because I’m a performer.
It’s not as clear cut as with women when you’re being objectified but it still happens and it becomes uncomfortable at times because people see you one way but truth to the matter is it’s just one aspect of my personality.
Well sure I have, men are objectified as physical labourers and cannon fodder from the moment they hit adulthood
not that I know. call it lack of self-confidence, But to be fetishized, someone must first find interest in you.
Only twice. I usually enjoy the attention, cause it is rare, but when it’s all-in and out of nowhere it does feel weird.
I used to be a mascot for a group, and they asked me to go down with the crowd to hype them up. And this group took me and this girl grabbed my hand and put it on her breasts, and was screaming things like “what is it you want!?”, and then climbed on me while her “friends” were hyping her up. It was so out of nowhere I was in complete shock. Luckily a group mate saw me and took me back to the stage.
Another time i got in a pool, was also at a party. I was the only one in the pool cause it was cold, and this girl with her friends came to me and asked if i was naked. I said “No?”, to which she responded “aw, i was about to jump right in”. An then her friends started laughing. Like, okay? In her defense she seemed high af, so i don’t take it to heart
Could care less
Asian guy here.
Nope, there is absolutely no fetishization going on.
Eh, kinda. I have reddish hair and freckles. A lot of women latch on to those traits, especially asian women for some reason.
It doesn’t really bother me, but it is kinda weird.
Im in my 40s and don’t think it’s more today than in the past. It’s always been s lot. Maybe we talk about it more today.
Yes. It happens all the time. Not much you can do about it other than not letting it get to your head
I have felt objectified and fetishized often in conjunction with one another over the years. Moreso in the past 5-10 years, than before.
For whatever reason it doesn’t make me feel lesser, in most cases it’s honestly pretty nice for my ego to be wanted in a lustful way. I find it pretty flattering when people barely over half my age drop hints. I struggled really hard with my self image, my body problems, not measuring up to what other men were etc… so it’s nice to have reinforcement that I am fine as I am.
I have pais. I look and sound female more or less with a curvy figure with wider hips, narrow shoulders, breasts and an androgenous/feminine facial structure. I’m small in stature, I look very young for my age and often get assumed to be in college, despite getting close to 40. Even when I bound my chest, wore exclusively mens fashion, and had shorter hair I was called miss more often than not.
I get people who think I’m a trans man, who make pretty forward advances, which also includes trans men. When I tried online dating, about 25% of my matches were trans men which seems astronomically high.
I get people that think I’m just a tomboy, and buy me a drink at the pub trying to shoot their shot about not being like other guys.
I get stronger women that want someone smaller they can have some power over, who’s quiet, submissive, and gentle. Someone who is fine with not being the lead. (This is what I was told anyhow by my ex wife, and my partner before her)
People just seem to see in me things they want to see. Some of it’s sure a fetish, but I’m okay with that. It works in my favour that I never have to approach anyone.
Only by my wife.
Jaysus I’m a martyr to the women objectifying me.
There are shit loads of young women with dad kinks out there.
> Have you ever felt objectified or fetishist?
No.
Yes, I have.
The only times I was bothered by it was when it happened as a kid. Several crazy old ladies in my grandma’s village.
After puberty, it stopped bothering me. Occasionally I even felt flattered but, in general, I simply didn’t care. It still happens occasionally even now, though the demographics changed. Now it’s mostly young women.
It probably helped that I had a sex positive upbringing and I don’t tend to be bothered too much by most of the things it’s “popular” on social media to be bothered about. Not being Anglo also helps a lot.
Honestly, I haven’t noticed this at all. Maybe we’re watching different things? LOL.
Could you give some examples?
Some women come to me at parties and check out my pecs by physically touching
It’s weird when it does happen, but i’ve been too embarrassed to throw a metoo tantrum about it.
And no I’ve always found that behavior too crass to consider for a relationship
No, but that comes with a lifetime of being extremely overweight and unattractive. I’m sure it sucks though, and sympathize with the folks that have to deal with it – a lot of times it’s weirdly easier to be someone that’s utterly invisible instead of dealing with all that.