For a while now i’ve been thinking about maybe doing the FWB or casual thing in the future. Not just for sex, but for something real without all the pressure of a full relationship. I know that can get messy, so I’m curious…
For the fellas who’ve had casual setups that still felt meaningful or just worked: What made it feel good? What did you learn from it?
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I usually am pretty close with my fwb. It’s not a full relationship in that I still have my freedom but I still care about them and it hurts a lot when we split. In fact, I’m going through it right now, after seeing her for almost 2 years.
Im going to answer this and say yes, but eventually those relationship failed to exist.
The one’s I had the evolved into emotionally meaningful went great. Amazing communication. Great mental connection. Healthy atmosphere. Some i still wish I had today.
Unfortunately what ended up happening was that they got too attached and watched to change water into wine so the relationships failed. I never see it as a bad thing, I loved the relationships, glad they happened, and now they’re gone.
It worked when we were on the same page.
They all eventually fell apart because priorities changed and we were no longer on the same page.
You are looking for a result from a method that is completely counterintuitive. I know looking for something real while protecting your heart seems like a safe bet but you’re setting yourself up for failure.
It’s hard enough making a relationship work when you’re both on the same page, let alone trying to make your FWB hold hands on the beach when that’s not what she’s looking for.
Fwb is a bad idea if you want a relationship, it’s not dating it’s only sex. If you had a daughter what would you advise her to do if she wanted an SO? that’s what you should do.
Yes. What made it fall apart? Different personalities and lifestyles. She was constantly traveling and enjoying her life. I’m a single father deeply committed and rooted to raising my kids.
Wild thought: Friendships are always emotionally meaningful.
But the idea that FWBs are a sneaky way of fucking yourself into someones heart… I don’t think so.
She was a FWB for about 6 months before we got together “officially”. We had a lot in common but had both been really hurt so we didn’t want to date
Finally one day we were cooking and I said “I think id be upset if you slept with someone else (without me there) and she said the same thing. So I asked if that meant w3 were dating. She said she guessed so. Were together 7 years after that
Had a FWB for a year because I was hesitant to make it official due to me discovering her promiscuous past (she told me herself, didn’t pry or snoop). Was working to get over it and only look at her present actions, not past. She came over to celebrate my birthday and forgot to turn off her notification announcements; in the middle of the night some dude texted her that he was home. It was less than benign and I gave her the raised eyebrow. Long story short, had great sex one last time and then took her ass home and haven’t seen her since. Not bout to play in my face on my birthday.