Ofc I’d never lay hands like that, but once I had a female friend run up on me and start hitting me for posting something embarrassing on her insta story. Little did she know, I didn’t do it. She kept hitting me in the lunch line yelling “fuck you” and after half a minute or so I pushed her away.
She flew to the floor and everyone gave me bad looks. Not proud, I don’t blame myself, but her hits didn’t hurt but my single push did a lot.
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My sister has a tendency to pinch and even punch me. One time she did it too far while I was about to go out the door and I kicked her back hard.
“If you do it to me I’ll do it to you harder ” she stopped after that
Had a crazy ex that did that. I fought back in sense I stopped her arms but didn’t push back or anything. I’m much larger than she is so didn’t feel need to strike back.
I picked up a man and woman hitchhiking. The guy hit me in the head with something metal while the woman stabbed me. If I had been able to get to my pistol hidden under my seat, I’d have shot them both with no disregard for the woman.
My ex wife tried unsuccessfully to hit me a couple of times.
She would wind up for the swing about a half hour ahead of time so I could easily see it coming. I would just put my arm up and her forearm would hit my forearm. That would hurt her more than it did me, obviously.
Then she would get pissed and I would walk away.
It’s super common. We really desperately need to teach girls from a young age not to put their hands on a man. We have spent so much energy teaching boys not to hit women. We need to do the same for girls. I’m so confident we’ll see a huge reduction in violence generally when we do.
Only once but….had split from a pretty tight relationship of almost 2 years. Because she had some kids I really loved I offered us to just go out, ALL of us once or twice on the weekends. At the time of the offer she seemed unfazed -almost like she was calling my bluff. Week 3 started with a few calls asking what we were really doing so I reexplained the split but still doing things with the kiddos. Each time she’d hesitate and eventually hang up. The next Saturday morning she showed up banging on my door. I let her in and she just unleashed on me yelling and charging me. Finally she gave me a big push into a wall. The sound of me bouncing off the wall was enough to snap her out of it. I said something to the effect of “you are obviously unhappy being with me, you’re free so just go”. She spun around & left. It was just a push into a wall, nothing too different than stuff with siblings as a kid so no need to go all-victim about it. It was an eye opener though & definitely signaled that relationship was well past its time.
Better question is probably who hasn’t had this happen at least once??
I laughed in her face, and told her she hits like a girl.
And then I warned her that, if she ever hits me again, and I find out about it…..
You ever see a woman try and throw or catch a ball? They throw a punch about as well.
Yes but this was back in high school. I’ve never had a grown woman assault me.
Only one time did I “fight” back. I put it in quotes because I didn’t put in any real force into it. She continued to hit me to the point her attacks were getting more aggressive and I was getting sick of it. I slapped her and that ended the fight right there.
She tried to rally everyone who witnessed the fight to shame me for slapping her. It didn’t work because she built a reputation for beating on boys and playing the victim card.
I laugh while deflecting like ” What are you doing silly?”
When knives or heavy projectiles come out though, im no longer laughing. Im out the door. I can take small heavy hand bag full of makeup to the dome, but not a coffee cup.
Twice. I got slugged right on my nose. Then I had to shove the woman off of me to get safely away.
I was in an apartment with shared kitchen and bathroom, and i had this roommate that was like next level self-centered i mean when she enters a room she acts like everyone should cater to her and watch for her every move. At some point we had a fight over something in the bathroom, regarding laundry. Fight escalated and she slapped me, i grabbed her neck and i wanted to squeeze the holy life out of her but i didn’t, i was able to control myself and stop before even hurting her. Fast forward she is in another apartment but she still received mail in this apartment, and one day, i was able to see that she had gotten what i believed was a bill for medical treatment. Never had i ever felt better about someone getting what was coming to them, cause this girl? was sociopath level provocative, and though i was able to restrain myself from letting go and potentially completely losing my shit and taking her life that time, someone else wasn’t able to and believe me when i say i don’t want to wish bad on people but that girl just did not give a single fuck with screaming into peoples faces and spewing insults like it’s going out of style…
TLDR:Narcissistic woman in her twenties demeans, insults, provokes, baits me into fight. I almost lose control, but months later she gets a bill for medical treatment because i believe someone else did lose control to her provocations.
Many times, a lot on a night out. One girl decided to just hit me for fun and laughed about it. Another tried to steal my glasses and hit me when I didn’t give them to her. Another thought I was someone else and punched me. Then generally in the workplace there will be a woman who likes to actually hit you. This has been the case in every workplace I’ve worked in. The worst was a woman who used to hit me for any reason, if she got frustrated I was getting hit, didn’t even have to be something I’d done. The thing that annoys me most is it’s always “what did you do to deserve it?” That’s the automatic response so you can’t even talk about it because getting hit is automatically your fault.
I yelled at them. So far seeing me very angry for the first time has stopped continuation of such behaviour.
Most people aren’t gonna belive this story.
I dated a girl with multiple personalities. (The whole story is WAY to long to post)
But short version, she had 3. Main girlfriend personality. 22 year old kinda uptight girl. 13 year old fun spunky tomboy (she and I had our own separate brother sister type relationship)
And a third. A dark, violent one. She never spoke. Only glared most of the time but on two occasions, attacked.
The first was horrible. The 13 year old was out and we were having fun, just joking around. She saw i had knife on my belt and asked if she could see it. I said sure. Gave it to her. Told her to be careful.
She looked at it with childlike wonder for a minute. Then looked up at me and her eyes changed.
It was more luck than skill I managed to block the stab. I picked her up on pure instinct (im not bragging, this wasn’t skill. This was panic) and threw her over the couch. I heard her hit the ground and cry out. But it was the cry of the 13 year old. It was over.
The other time, I went over and as soon as I walked in the door, something was wrong. The adult was pacing and upset about something, but as I tried to talk to her, she looked up.
Same eyes.
I know im sounding dramatic. But the eyes are the windows to the soul.
She attacked. Fast and hard she’s scratching and clawing. Im trying to back up. She claw my face. Rips my shirt. Somehow manages to completely rip a pocket off my jeans. Im bleeding from a dozen places. She finally tears past me and flees the apartment.
So now I have two options. Call the cops (bad) or call her sister.
The thing is…she had a good bond with her sister. But her sister hated me. Not for any great reason. We just kinda clashed. (Also I spilled nachos cheese on her shoes the first time we met)
So i called the sister. Just said it was urgent. She showed up at the door with a look that was bitter. But she saw how hurt I was.
I had to just say this. “I know you hate me. But I also know your father molested you both. And your sister has problems from that you don’t know. So help me find her. Or I have to call the police”.
And we went searching throught the complex and the accompanying park. Her sister found the adult wondering why she was in the park.
And that led to a few uncomfortable conversations and she finally went to therapy
A proportionate response is always acceptable. Pushing her away is probably the best response.
Society telling men we have to allow ourselves to be physically assaulted is toxic masculinity. You are well within your rights to defend yourself.
If you accept their judgement of you, you validate it. Insist you were defending yourself.