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“the one” does not exist. If you like someone enough to marry them, you should like them enough so that the prospect of fucking another girl/guy should make you genuinely sad to think about
Divorce rates imply that people at least think this happens a lot. Probably just the next divorce coming early, but also not to say people who are miserable should just be that til death or inherently change who they are or grow to be.
I’m going to assume you are truly asking for a friend and not creating rage bait on reddit since you posted 2 months ago about being single for the past two years.
I think when you find the right person, no one else will matter anymore. You wouldn’t allow those feelings to creep into your mind because you couldn’t imagine being with anyone besides your partner. That’s how I feel at least, my partner truly completes me and I couldn’t imagine being with someone else. I’m once divorced and never felt this way about my ex.
I do not believe in “the one”. There are lots. You gotta choose one. I mean, I suppose you don’t have to. Most of the leaders in my country are divorced and are rampant cheaters.
No. But I notice that you are not interesting to anyone for years and years, while you are single, but once you find your person, others will start to provides acts of attention and interest in no time
My fiancee and I were both married to narcissistic abusers before we met. We are convinced that we are twin flames. We have personalities that oddly compliment one another and are opposites in useful ways as far as skills and favorites, etc. but are very similar as far as neurotypes and personal beliefs, etc. we just work and naturally understand one another and have been for nearly 4 years now, with lots of hard work and communication to build our relationship.
I did. I was married to my first wife for less than 6 months when we figured it wouldn’t work out (after 16 years of courting/traveling together/etc.). I was still married with The One. I’m still married to her, 15 years later.
As for the expenses part: premarital agreements are a beautiful thing for both parties. I have never married / will never marry anyone without one. If she insists on not having one, it’s not for you.
Edit (because people have no idea how premarital agreements work): your lawyer and her lawyer work out a deal that outlines who gets what, when, and at what rate. It can get expensive because what each partner gets is often negotiated in terms of months and years together. Property can be agreed to be joint or separate. Everything except children-related stuff is negotiable. It may still get expensive, but you know in advance how much it’ll cost and you can come up with a financial arrangement that makes sense without having a huge fight in court. And if you kep things separate then there’s no argument over who owns which car or whatever. Children support and visitation are not covered and those are decided in family court, where the main goal is the welfare of the children. There are financial considerations involved, but they’re separate and outside a premarital agreement.
There’s no such thing as “the one.” It’s probably just exciting because they’re novel and there was a spark. No relationship stays new forever. You settle into a comfortable routine. This new person will not be any different. They have their flaws and even if [your friend] decided to run off and marry them instead, someday they would find themselves back in the same situation again and probably end up cheating again.
If a marriage really isn’t working then end it but only for that reason. Never end it because you think you’ve found something better. You haven’t. The newness always wears off.
Yep. I did. I married my high school sweetheart before our brains had fully matured. The relationship died a slow death. I met my current husband while that relationship was in its death throes. We became best friends and he was there for me while I dealt with the fallout of divorce. Going on 10 years of marriage this year and we’re stronger than ever.
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Sounds like this is gunna be expensive. Sorry buddy.
No such thing, this is just lust.
“May you meet the woman of your dreams at your own wedding reception”
— Johnny Carson
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Made up by books and movies to sell more of those.
“Asking for a friend”. Yeah, invest time in figuring out how to communicate with your spouse. The earlier, the better in general.
I don’t believe there’s just one for us but once you’re married your spouse is the one
I’ve been married 30 years and still haven’t met “the one” 😅
“the one” does not exist. If you like someone enough to marry them, you should like them enough so that the prospect of fucking another girl/guy should make you genuinely sad to think about
The grass is always greenest where you feed it the most.
You’re most likely to regret it if you leave for ‘the one’. Plz remember, the dildo of consequences rarely arrives lubed.
Divorce rates imply that people at least think this happens a lot. Probably just the next divorce coming early, but also not to say people who are miserable should just be that til death or inherently change who they are or grow to be.
I’m going to assume you are truly asking for a friend and not creating rage bait on reddit since you posted 2 months ago about being single for the past two years.
I think when you find the right person, no one else will matter anymore. You wouldn’t allow those feelings to creep into your mind because you couldn’t imagine being with anyone besides your partner. That’s how I feel at least, my partner truly completes me and I couldn’t imagine being with someone else. I’m once divorced and never felt this way about my ex.
Yep.
Mate, there is no ‘the one’.
Tbh, if you are recently married, consider whether there are other issues going on and this person is a convenient diversion from those issues.
Lust sometimes makes people do silly, silly things.
Hope ya got a prenup homes
Nope, why would I open myself up to that? Once, I said I do. I never entertained anyone else.
I do not believe in “the one”. There are lots. You gotta choose one. I mean, I suppose you don’t have to. Most of the leaders in my country are divorced and are rampant cheaters.
No. But I notice that you are not interesting to anyone for years and years, while you are single, but once you find your person, others will start to provides acts of attention and interest in no time
Yes and it’s because there’s no such thing as the one. There are many ones ✨
That is how my open marriage journey started 7 years ago
I thought I had.
Turns out she was severely mentally ill. And so was I.
My fiancee and I were both married to narcissistic abusers before we met. We are convinced that we are twin flames. We have personalities that oddly compliment one another and are opposites in useful ways as far as skills and favorites, etc. but are very similar as far as neurotypes and personal beliefs, etc. we just work and naturally understand one another and have been for nearly 4 years now, with lots of hard work and communication to build our relationship.
I did. I was married to my first wife for less than 6 months when we figured it wouldn’t work out (after 16 years of courting/traveling together/etc.). I was still married with The One. I’m still married to her, 15 years later.
As for the expenses part: premarital agreements are a beautiful thing for both parties. I have never married / will never marry anyone without one. If she insists on not having one, it’s not for you.
Edit (because people have no idea how premarital agreements work): your lawyer and her lawyer work out a deal that outlines who gets what, when, and at what rate. It can get expensive because what each partner gets is often negotiated in terms of months and years together. Property can be agreed to be joint or separate. Everything except children-related stuff is negotiable. It may still get expensive, but you know in advance how much it’ll cost and you can come up with a financial arrangement that makes sense without having a huge fight in court. And if you kep things separate then there’s no argument over who owns which car or whatever. Children support and visitation are not covered and those are decided in family court, where the main goal is the welfare of the children. There are financial considerations involved, but they’re separate and outside a premarital agreement.
Cheers!
There’s no such thing as “the one.” It’s probably just exciting because they’re novel and there was a spark. No relationship stays new forever. You settle into a comfortable routine. This new person will not be any different. They have their flaws and even if [your friend] decided to run off and marry them instead, someday they would find themselves back in the same situation again and probably end up cheating again.
If a marriage really isn’t working then end it but only for that reason. Never end it because you think you’ve found something better. You haven’t. The newness always wears off.
That desire to seek a deeper connection with someone that would lead to that is switched off for me. If someone else was interested, I’d never notice.
No, but my ex husband did
I never thanked her…
Nope, but apparently, my ex-husband did.
The grass always seems greener but that’s always the case
There’s not one person for everyone, but you chose the one you married and there’s that whole “forsake all others” part of marriage and vows usually
Never leave fish to look for fish.
Choose your love, love your choice.
End of story.
Yep. I did. I married my high school sweetheart before our brains had fully matured. The relationship died a slow death. I met my current husband while that relationship was in its death throes. We became best friends and he was there for me while I dealt with the fallout of divorce. Going on 10 years of marriage this year and we’re stronger than ever.