Im still a virgin at 25, im probably ugly, im SUPER quiet, and have extreme social anxiety. Its been over for ages. Im literally the bottom of the barrel for dating, if there is a God he hates me. But yea, thank fuck im not religious anymore. I lost ‘hope’ ages ago. True pleasure isnt meant to come from a woman, its meant to come from within, unfortunately I cant really meditate 10hrs a day
I’m there atm, 41 almost 42 and been single for 12 years, Though I haven’t really been looking for love due to long hours at work and a night shift..Just feels like I’ll be alone for the remainder of my life now.
I’m 46 and I’ve given up. Too many weirdo quasi abusive narcissists and I’ve realized my picker is just fucked. Either most dudes are truly fucked up or I’ve got a pure penchant for being attracted to douchebags. Either way, I’m happier single.
When I built up enough self worth to realize that I don’t need any external validation for who I am.
That I am enough, just as I am.
And if somebody doesn’t see that, they’re not for me.
My lifestyle, where i live, and my unwillingness to be casual.
the last one I’ve decided to be more flexible on recently.
i live in a small rural village. there is nobody to date. Everyone knows everyone and everything that goes on. I had a brief non-sexual fling with a woman who was visiting the area 3 years ago. I had a neighbor who became my close friend in the following year and when i mentioned it they said “oh yeah i know about that. Everyone knows about that”.
i travel for months-years at a time and enjoy doing it solo. i bristle at constraint, so a conventional relationship would make this difficult.
I haven’t given up, it’s just not my number one priority. i like my life. i like living alone. i like my independence. i like that what i choose for my life does not require the consideration of how it will effect someone else. a lot of what i do requires solitude. It sounds selfish but I’m not opposed to changing for the right person should they wander into my life.
If i meet someone and feel a spark, I’d totally ask them out on a date. But i’m not actively searching for that.
I’m in my 40s. After my last relationship was feeling a little heartbroken and typically I would drink alcohol. Maybe find someone for a one night stand or someone to date temporarily as a rebound. To help you get over my heartbreak
This last time I didn’t do any of that. I just dealt with the hurt. And then reflected. And in that reflection, I realized I’ve never had a relationship that I was happy in. I’ve never been with someone who made me a better person. Who uplifted me in anyway. Every relationship I’ve been in, felt like it was a constant sacrifice to make another person. Happy who never give a fuck about my happiness at all. So after 20 years of dating and relationship relationships, and never once looking back and thinking, any of it was a good experience. I simply stopped. Why would I continue to do that? Why would I continue to do things that made me unhappy?
Been at that point for about a year now. I would always have major anxiety when talking to and dating girls I really liked to the point where my whole day would be just thinking of them. Now I’m pretty content with my life and don’t have to stress about anyone else. Honestly think I’m just meant to be alone which I’m fine with.
Haven’t dated for years now, though I still think about my exes. I would say the breaking point for me was being hurt that I get excited over little things and see joy in small items like a coffee or video game, and I dated people who were more reserved “realists” that would shrug it off. What was important to me wasn’t important to them, and that was enough for me to mentally check out of dating 🤷♀️ Maybe one day someone will be excited about Pokémon with me…
I got divorced and really can’t be bothered telling my story. Dating sites suck. I’m happy with my life and I have terrible taste in men, I know why but it doesn’t stop me finding them.
I am in a 14 yr relationship & I can not wait to be single again! I honestly don’t want to date again, I want to be single & happy. Relationships are hard especially when you’re with a person who is not for you. I fought so hard to make it work because I was in love, now I’m just miserable.
My last two girlfriends left me in very similar ways. By just leaving without any explanation and barely any goodbye. Hell, there wasn’t any goodbye. They just left. Not gonna do that again.
I arrived at a point in my life where I finally felt comfortable in my own company. I don’t have to have a significant other. I’m good single or with somebody.
When you open your heart to a person and fall in love with her, only to getting your heart ripped apart makes you think, i cant keep up with this shit. Better being alone then being disappointed all over again. I just lost the hope i wont be rejected again so its also a protective mechanism i think…..
Well yes !! I have now. Failed at love . Now i don’t care..I don’t even care about anyone’s presence . It’s not that I am sad or depressed. I am totally functional happy and outgoing..just that no one’s presence or absence really bothers..it’s not even in terms of dating. In every every term..and when it comes to dating I think love and relationship aren’t made for me.
I realized that I’m not a mentally healthy person and that I have nothing to offer or give to a relationship at this time in my life. My self-esteem is shot and I haven’t been attracted to anyone since I decided I want to work on myself.
Currently! I’ve been single for 8 years now; I haven’t gone on a date for just as long. My last relationship was wonderful, and it took me years to get over, mostly cuz we only had to break up due to life things. I’ve yet to meet anyone since that has really interested me. I guess maybe I’m weird but I don’t know; when I think about dating it kinda turns my stomach. After a while, I just got too used to doing everything my way and looking after and caring for myself. I’m very comfortable with who I am nowadays.
I had a talk with myself and decided that I needed to get my shit together first before I bring someone else into this. I grew up with a parent who was not the most emotionally stable person, or mentally stable, or self reflective at all. That experience has without doubt influenced my decision on this. I want to be the best partner I can be and I do not feel confident that I could be that person without having my life together first.
There now. My last two “loves” have left me empty, feeling less than, betrayed, neglected, and emotionally abused. I am a hopeless romantic but right now it’s just not worth it anymore. I need to deeply heal myself.
I tried dating twice back in my college years so about the ages of 18 and 19. Those two dates lasted either a couple of weeks or about a monthish. Now in my 30s and I just can’t be arsed. I’m fine being single.
I just realized my mental illness is probably a hinder to any relationship I’m in. So I’d rather just stay alone and suffer alone without dragging someone in it.
I hope i reach that point and i hope its very soon because i fucking HATE wanting a ralationship, its like a fucking razor wire collar tight around my brain
I think that is my default state. Very occasionally (like maybe 5 times in my whole life) I tried to go on a date and ended up regretting it. I’m fortunate enough to be lacking in the strong desire to even pursue it, so I’m pretty content as I am, The times I tried to date were driven out societal pressure more than my own actual wants.
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My wife
I gave up men for a while after an incident with an abusive boyfriend.
Probably being at a stage where I’m far from getting a date successfully…maybe
String of failed romances, I’ve never looked for love, love finds me & breaks my heart. 😂
Rejection
My dismal success rate.
Even though I still have a little bit of hope, I think I’m okay with where I’m at.
Im still a virgin at 25, im probably ugly, im SUPER quiet, and have extreme social anxiety. Its been over for ages. Im literally the bottom of the barrel for dating, if there is a God he hates me. But yea, thank fuck im not religious anymore. I lost ‘hope’ ages ago. True pleasure isnt meant to come from a woman, its meant to come from within, unfortunately I cant really meditate 10hrs a day
I’m there atm, 41 almost 42 and been single for 12 years, Though I haven’t really been looking for love due to long hours at work and a night shift..Just feels like I’ll be alone for the remainder of my life now.
After getting ghosted dozens of times on dating apps
When I realized I kept chasing people away
That’s where I am now, while I just figure things out in both my personal and my work life.
Gold diggers
When I realized that I’m happy alone
I got fucked over pretty bad and had a hard time trusting people since then
My ex fiancee. Not a nasty break up but the relationship as a whole has kinda turned me off companionship lol.
Yes because I work from home, don’t like leaving the house because of chronic pain, I’m too busy with my own hobbies and issues and people suck
I’m 46 and I’ve given up. Too many weirdo quasi abusive narcissists and I’ve realized my picker is just fucked. Either most dudes are truly fucked up or I’ve got a pure penchant for being attracted to douchebags. Either way, I’m happier single.
Laziness, all this preparation for perhaps nothing, I prefer to watch a good film 😄
When I built up enough self worth to realize that I don’t need any external validation for who I am.
That I am enough, just as I am.
And if somebody doesn’t see that, they’re not for me.
Just starting over sucks don’t wanna put time and effort again.
“Divorce babe, divorce”
Being ugly
Too many bad experiences, too much anxiety grew around it
My lifestyle, where i live, and my unwillingness to be casual.
the last one I’ve decided to be more flexible on recently.
i live in a small rural village. there is nobody to date. Everyone knows everyone and everything that goes on. I had a brief non-sexual fling with a woman who was visiting the area 3 years ago. I had a neighbor who became my close friend in the following year and when i mentioned it they said “oh yeah i know about that. Everyone knows about that”.
i travel for months-years at a time and enjoy doing it solo. i bristle at constraint, so a conventional relationship would make this difficult.
I haven’t given up, it’s just not my number one priority. i like my life. i like living alone. i like my independence. i like that what i choose for my life does not require the consideration of how it will effect someone else. a lot of what i do requires solitude. It sounds selfish but I’m not opposed to changing for the right person should they wander into my life.
If i meet someone and feel a spark, I’d totally ask them out on a date. But i’m not actively searching for that.
i treasure my friendships.
I’m in my 40s. After my last relationship was feeling a little heartbroken and typically I would drink alcohol. Maybe find someone for a one night stand or someone to date temporarily as a rebound. To help you get over my heartbreak
This last time I didn’t do any of that. I just dealt with the hurt. And then reflected. And in that reflection, I realized I’ve never had a relationship that I was happy in. I’ve never been with someone who made me a better person. Who uplifted me in anyway. Every relationship I’ve been in, felt like it was a constant sacrifice to make another person. Happy who never give a fuck about my happiness at all. So after 20 years of dating and relationship relationships, and never once looking back and thinking, any of it was a good experience. I simply stopped. Why would I continue to do that? Why would I continue to do things that made me unhappy?
Been at that point for about a year now. I would always have major anxiety when talking to and dating girls I really liked to the point where my whole day would be just thinking of them. Now I’m pretty content with my life and don’t have to stress about anyone else. Honestly think I’m just meant to be alone which I’m fine with.
Repeated failures and poverty
After my last relationship was over in 2010.
She wanted me to move in with her and I wanted to buy a house
Haven’t dated for years now, though I still think about my exes. I would say the breaking point for me was being hurt that I get excited over little things and see joy in small items like a coffee or video game, and I dated people who were more reserved “realists” that would shrug it off. What was important to me wasn’t important to them, and that was enough for me to mentally check out of dating 🤷♀️ Maybe one day someone will be excited about Pokémon with me…
Incel culture has influenced the average man to be unsafe and unsound
Freedom is addicting
I genuinely don’t have energy
Continues disrespectful and dishonest behaviour from other people.
It didn’t fill the void. It was just….meh. Not worth it. I have better things to do with my time.
After some traumatic abusive relationships I’m just done and happier alone, it’s peaceful, safe … I’m free! ♥
When I got married… a series of fortunate and not-so-fortunate events followed shortly after by a falleq festival.
Husband passed away and now I just don’t care about finding anyone. If I die alone so be it.
I got divorced and really can’t be bothered telling my story. Dating sites suck. I’m happy with my life and I have terrible taste in men, I know why but it doesn’t stop me finding them.
I work long hours
I’m slightly out of shape (not fat, just not ripped/muscular)
Dating is expensive with a high failure rate
I’m in my 30s so the pool of interested women is smaller
My job is all male, and I don’t have any hobbies or other 3rd spaces that bring me into contact with women organically
I am in a 14 yr relationship & I can not wait to be single again! I honestly don’t want to date again, I want to be single & happy. Relationships are hard especially when you’re with a person who is not for you. I fought so hard to make it work because I was in love, now I’m just miserable.
My last two girlfriends left me in very similar ways. By just leaving without any explanation and barely any goodbye. Hell, there wasn’t any goodbye. They just left. Not gonna do that again.
I arrived at a point in my life where I finally felt comfortable in my own company. I don’t have to have a significant other. I’m good single or with somebody.
When you’re happy alone.
When you open your heart to a person and fall in love with her, only to getting your heart ripped apart makes you think, i cant keep up with this shit. Better being alone then being disappointed all over again. I just lost the hope i wont be rejected again so its also a protective mechanism i think…..
Well yes !! I have now. Failed at love . Now i don’t care..I don’t even care about anyone’s presence . It’s not that I am sad or depressed. I am totally functional happy and outgoing..just that no one’s presence or absence really bothers..it’s not even in terms of dating. In every every term..and when it comes to dating I think love and relationship aren’t made for me.
Men
Self acceptance that I’ll never be good enough. I’ve made so many changes to myself that I don’t even really know who or what I am anymore.
I realized that I’m not a mentally healthy person and that I have nothing to offer or give to a relationship at this time in my life. My self-esteem is shot and I haven’t been attracted to anyone since I decided I want to work on myself.
Tired of being let down by everyone I meet. People are so confusing and only out for themselves
Currently! I’ve been single for 8 years now; I haven’t gone on a date for just as long. My last relationship was wonderful, and it took me years to get over, mostly cuz we only had to break up due to life things. I’ve yet to meet anyone since that has really interested me. I guess maybe I’m weird but I don’t know; when I think about dating it kinda turns my stomach. After a while, I just got too used to doing everything my way and looking after and caring for myself. I’m very comfortable with who I am nowadays.
I had a talk with myself and decided that I needed to get my shit together first before I bring someone else into this. I grew up with a parent who was not the most emotionally stable person, or mentally stable, or self reflective at all. That experience has without doubt influenced my decision on this. I want to be the best partner I can be and I do not feel confident that I could be that person without having my life together first.
There now. My last two “loves” have left me empty, feeling less than, betrayed, neglected, and emotionally abused. I am a hopeless romantic but right now it’s just not worth it anymore. I need to deeply heal myself.
I tried dating twice back in my college years so about the ages of 18 and 19. Those two dates lasted either a couple of weeks or about a monthish. Now in my 30s and I just can’t be arsed. I’m fine being single.
I just realized my mental illness is probably a hinder to any relationship I’m in. So I’d rather just stay alone and suffer alone without dragging someone in it.
I hope i reach that point and i hope its very soon because i fucking HATE wanting a ralationship, its like a fucking razor wire collar tight around my brain
I think that is my default state. Very occasionally (like maybe 5 times in my whole life) I tried to go on a date and ended up regretting it. I’m fortunate enough to be lacking in the strong desire to even pursue it, so I’m pretty content as I am, The times I tried to date were driven out societal pressure more than my own actual wants.