My parents always get annoyed by my depression or compare me to my cousin who killed himself because his father murdered somone infront of him. And it’s his fault why our family is ruined and an doing the same.
Like I didn’t ask to be here and you could of aborted me when you had the chance.
My own grandmother wanted her to when she and my sister was abusing me by forcing in the basement in the dark for hours. Not even cared if I devolved a fear later in life.
Then my older sister groomed and raped me and my siblings when we were barely under 10 years old while she was a teenager.
I told adults I trusted that am depression and suicidal and they had to make it fucking worse. Like this 27 year old woman understands my pain because she was also raped as a kid.
I later found out she was grooming me because I told her I wish my mother didn’t have me because of my depression and she told me
“Well, your mother was force to have you or women don’t have rights anymore.” Then hee boyfriend told me it’s was my grandmother’s opinion if she didn’t want me here.
All I want to do afther HS is be a emt for couple of years to help people that needs it and maybe get a puppy, but I don’t know.
Nothing about me is the same anymore.
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Your story reminds me of the movie “The Perks of Being a Wallflower”. I hope you’re able to find a therapist to talk to. You’ve experienced a lot at such a young age. I believe you’ll achieve your goal of being an EMT. If you call the hospitals, you can ask if you can be an EMT volunteer assistant. They let you ride with them in the ambulances & ask you to handle the crowd/family while they attend to the medical needs of the patient.
My daughter has depression and horrible anxiety. I have it too and my heart breaks for her but I never regret having her. I just try to be there for her because no one was there for me. My parents didn’t acknowledge it.
Hey, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hate it when my kid struggles, but I have never regretted having them. It’s my job as their mom to help them. Is therapy an option for you? Even a group therapy session might help. If you can’t do that, have you considered reaching out to a pastor or school counselor? Not a crazy religious pastor, but like a bland Methodist or Episcopalian or Unitarian one? They often times will listen without proselytizing and have access to a wide variety of social services referrals.
Sweetie your parents aren’t good at parenting. With all that is happening in your life, it’s natural to get some mental health issues. Which is not your fault in anyway. This video is what helped me getting a grip on depressions. It’s a tool. There are many others. Having a future dream to look forward to and a goal to work to helps. Leaving all the emotional unhealthy family behind or greyrock them until you can helped me the most. Never ever say something is forever. You don’t know what the future may bring. https://youtu.be/XiCrniLQGYc?si=PTz3hbIRa8OnsuYf
You are full of worth. Depression can tell us otherwise, but it’s lying. Your life has value and purpose and I can see you are trying to create a future for yourself by thinking about a career that will fulfil you and by making connections to people and other living things. Keep moving in the direction, kiddo. You can do this. You can do tough things.
No. I just wish I could help them feel better more than I can.
I’m a parent (who has chronic depression, thankfully well-managed these days with medication that really suits me – I hope you find treatment that works as well for you, OP) of a young-adult child who has, not depression, but other significant mental health struggles. Never for a moment have I regretted having them. They are my absolute hero.
Edit: I so admire your goal to become an EMT. What a great thing to aim for – I wish you every success. Try to use your focus on that to keep you boosted and motivated in the face of your struggles. You will get there! I wish you and your future puppy all the peace and contentment you deserve.
Never in a million years.
Sounds like things have been and are very painful. Do you have a crisis hotline you can talk to, it’s free, anonymous and just talking to people who can listen with compassion can really help. They might give referrals to other hotlines that can address specific issues and offer support.
Big hug
I don’t have a kid so I’m not exactly answering your question directly.
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. I can relate in the sense that my parents never gave me any support when I was depressed. I just want you to know that it’s totally understandable to struggle given those circumstances. I hope you understand that it’s them, not you. It’s fucked up for them to compare you like that. Obviously not helpful. Might be the right time for you to start embracing the truth that your parents are flawed people, like anybody, and won’t be the emotional support you’re looking for, probably ever. I know my parents never really learned the lesson about being dismissive and disrespectful about my struggles. It took me way too long to accept they were never going to change. I stopped expecting support and started expecting them to not understand. I learned to avoid certain topics around them because I knew they weren’t going to have a healthy response. Setting up those emotional boundaries really helped me, Even though it meant emotionally distancing myself from my parents. I don’t judge them for it anymore, I just recognize their flaws and I don’t expect them to ever change. It’s hard to set up those boundaries with people you love but it’s necessary.
Your depression is totally normal. I’m about 40 And still get depressed. I just try to take charge and not wallow in it. It can be rough not having somebody to vent to. Therapy helps.
Not at all! The therapists were expensive, there was plenty of backsliding (which did stress me!), but I never regretted her! She is much better now but still deals with bouts. She knows I’m just a phone call away to offer love and support. Stay strong, dear. It will get better!
I only have a young child, but I can say if he ever experienced what you did he would be getting all the love and support in the world. I’m so sorry your parents and your family have let you down and done nothing to help. You need some intense therapy to work through your trauma, and I truly believe someday you can get past the depression and be happy.
I was an EMT and Paramedic for years and I’d honestly urge people away from it unless you want to become a firefighter. There aren’t many opportunities for people that want to do just do medical care and working for private ambulance companies, or hospitals aren’t really great.
If you want to work on getting a degree in nursing or something like that, the experience from being an EMT can be awesome. I no longer work in the field, and large number of younger EMS people I’ve come into contact with have either left to pursue careers in nursing, physicians assistant, medical doctor or quit healthcare altogether.
I’ve never been “annoyed” at my child’s depression. I worry about it constantly.
Depression is often a chemical imbalance that can be treated with medication and/or therapy. You need to see a medical provider and discuss treatment options for you. Idk if you can ask your parents for help with this or not. If you can’t, make that a priority once you’re a legal adult. A good therapist will help you with your career choice. EMTs need a safe place to release the trauma they experience. I wish you well.
My child has OCD and depression. I love them with all my heart. I also have it. I am glad both they and I are still alive. I’m glad you are alive. I believe you can make a positive difference in this world. Despite the trauma your family has put you through, I believe you can heal. ❤️
I think people underestimate how terrible the teenage years can be. I was depressed and suicidal for most of my teen years (similar to you I’ve experienced sexual abuse and neglect). All I can say is that it does get better. If you can just push through until you are able to get a job and move into your own personal space away from your family, even if it’s just a rented room in a shared apartment with cool roommates, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will at some point in the future have power and choices in your life that nobody can take away.
For now, keep your head down, don’t talk to people who’ve proven themselves to be untrustworthy, and go for as many walks as you can when you’re feeling depressed. Walking can help to shift your mind and perspective, especially if you do it without earbuds in.
No, I don’t regret it, and I’m afraid I might have PTSD from the attempts. I’m always analyzing, watching for clues, never relaxing. But, it’s not like it’s all about me. I want THEM to be happy, and I have no idea how to help besides provide a therapist and try to avoid saying or doing anything triggering. The fact that they both are still trying to work with this shows more integrity than I can wrap my mind around.