I sometimes go back and forth about this. I hope one day I can be ‘strong’ enough to not let my mom’s insanity effect me. Until then I can’t be in the same room as her.
I sometimes go back and forth about this. I hope one day I can be ‘strong’ enough to not let my mom’s insanity effect me. Until then I can’t be in the same room as her.
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I have. In both cases, it came from an unsolicited apology and genuine efforts to repair.
One of them were genuine and we now have a good relationship. The other lasted 6 months before completely reverting to behaviors that led to the lack of contact in the first place.
I was NC with MIL within my first year of marriage and that lasted for many years. Think 10+. Then a traumatic event (being intentionally vague for anonymity) happened to her, and we resumed contact thinking that she had changed. She had not changed. She managed to blow that up in a year or less. We have been back to no contact for another 10+ years. I’m not saying no one can change, but I am saying that people very rarely change.
The odds are against it, but I guess it IS possible. Just not probable. Unless someone gets intense therapy and truly wants to change, it’s usually just lip service. Telling you what they think you want to hear. Then they revert back to form in a month or two. Or a week in my experience.