My boyfriend, now ex had just broken up with me and I am so lost and hurt. I don’t want our relationship to end, especially not over something like this.
He broke up with me because my previous ex accidentally finished inside me while we were having sex in my past relationship. My boyfriend at the time was aware that I was fearful of having kids too early and wanted to finish college first. But he told me to trust him and stupidly, I did.
My boyfriend, now ex told me he won’t ever see me the same again and that he can’t be in a relationship with me anymore. And without giving me the chance to explain anything or provide reassurance, he had removed me everywhere. My messages are still sending on iMessage and appear as delivered, so I don’t think he blocked my number.
I am truly in love with this man and I would do anything for him, the same way I would do anything to maintain our relationship. Is there a way I can fix this situation and mend our relationship?
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He did you a favour.
He broke up with you because of something that happened before he was ever in the picture?
“I am truly in love with this man”.
He isn’t a man. He’s an immature boy with a strange inferiority complex.
There’s nothing that you could say or do which will shake him out of this mind set that he has created by his own doing.
My advice is to allow yourself to feel the pain for now. But know that you will eventually be able to find someone who truly values you and your relationship with them.
This boy will eventually just be a distant memory from your early 20s.
I don’t know why but I think some important details are missing, how did you end up having this conversation, were you not a virgin, you had previous relationships, why would the location matter?
You’re young and this guy is not your future husband. He’s immature and he’s literally telling you he thinks less of you for your past.
He does not respect you. Please leave now and don’t waste anymore of your time with this guy.
Also, maybe a little too much information for your future lovers. You can tell them whatever you want, but that was a very, very intimate detail to share about an ex to a current partner. It was probably pretty shocking to hear to him.
He aint the one sis. You are young and you’ll find someone who neither cares about your body count nor your past. Do you really want to get back together with him so that he holds this over your head every single day?
Girl stand up you can love again
Probably you don’t let him raw dog and he is mad you let an ex.
No, and you shouldn’t. He’s shown he’s not worthy of you
That’s a ridiculous thing for him to be mad about. Just let him go
Your ex is immature and judgemental. Move on, finish school, and when you have healed date, someone who doesn’t hold your past against you and who actually loves and accepts you for who you are. You did nothing wrong, yet your ex is acting like you cheated on him. Unfortunately, women are still judged for having sex.
Oh hell no. The toxic trash just took itself out. Stop chasing it. He is no better than your ex. This is not love. He showed you his true colors, and they’re ugly as hell. You need to stop dating and work on educating yourself on toxic abusive behavior traits. You are missing red flag, after red flag. That makes you seriously unsafe. You also need to build your self love, self respect, and self worth. Until you do you are going to keep choosing toxic trash humans. What he did and said to you was vile AF. He couldn’t care less about you. It’s just the facts. Don’t ever let him near you again.