He was someone I have a few mutual friends with that I’d been seeing for a month or so, though we’d only been on two dates because our schedules were complete opposites. On the second date, we slept together for the first time, which was pretty unexpected and much quicker than either of us usually would. That’s when things started to fall apart.
Eventually when I approached him about the distance I was sensing between us, he suddenly expressed uncertainty about my feelings for him, then basically asked how I saw us. I told him honestly that while I like him a lot, I can’t know after 2 dates whether I want to commit to someone, so at that point I was still kind of open to anything depending on how he wanted to proceed. I did tell him that I would be open to a relationship once we’d gone out more and knew we’d work as a couple.
He sat on it for a bit, then decided to end things completely?! His reasoning was that since we have too many mutual friends he doesn’t want to risk break up drama. Which is weird to only realize after almost a month and a half, and our groups don’t even intersect that often.
In retrospect I wonder if my lack of certainty hurt him or made him assume that I don’t like him enough to be worth the risk, basically. At the same time, him not revealing what he wanted until he got an answer about what I wanted makes me somewhat think he was just looking for an excuse to end things after sleeping together, and I screwed it up by saying I was open to anything so he came up with the friend excuse.
I was really enjoying our connection and the chemistry was out of this world. Is this potentially fixable, or is this a classic case of being ditched after he got what he wanted from me?
TL;DR Guy asked what I wanted, I told him I was open to anything, he told me he was open to nothing and ended it. Blamed it on not wanting to cause drama in our friend group, but I’m not sure if it was my wishy-washy answer