Hello, i had been in a very difficult relationship for over 4 years, and he broke up with me 6 months ago because i had a bad week mentally and told me I was too much and that I’ve been in this state for months (it was a week…) then he left me.
He now sent me this message: “if you’re free and willing to talk i would like to try and understand what went wrong with our relationship and figure out what i and you did wrong so maybe we can improve in our self”
And followed up with: “let me be clear im not trying to get back together”
Please tell me what is wrong with this guy, i already blocked immediately. But wth is that?
TL;DR my ex wants me to be his therapist even after we broke up
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You did all you can do, blocked and now you can move on with your life.
It’s not your responsibility to explain to him how he let you down emotionally when he was supposed to show up and support you during a dark time. He showed you who he is, and that’s not a person you need anywhere near you.
I hope you get lots of rest, cook yourself some delicious foods, read a great book, go on amazing walks and just enjoy being with the most important person in your life – you.
Take care, stay safe, be well.
kinda odd how he wants to go back and talk about it when he’s not trying to get back together (probs cap). if we give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he wants to learn from it and be a better person in the future. 4 years is a very long time so you’d want closure, but also he was the one who broke up with you so he lowkey isn’t your problem now…
I mean… there’s a twisted logic there. Who knows him better in a romantic sense than you do? You’re the best resource he has for ensuring that his next relationship doesn’t blow up like this one.
Or perhaps he’s kidding himself about the “I’m not trying to get back together” thing.
Also, this is basically the plot of “High Fidelity” a pretty decent movie about an immature manbaby on a very similar quest of self-discovery. If you’d like some possible insight and have two hours to kill, check it out.