When I passed out, I was dreaming that I was back home with my mom and sister. We were hugging, laughing, and having a great time. I knew that it wasnt possible for me to be there, but I was still so happy. I felt so much peace. Then I woke up to him standing over me trying to wake me up
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Girl run once a man puts his hands on your throat your 7x as likely to die by DV
Leave as soon as you can, which I know can be a hard situation but you need to get yourself out of there. I had a friend who had an abusive boyfriend/baby daddy, and he would do smaller things to her until he didn’t. He ended up putting her in the hospital for over a week and she almost died because of how bad he beat her. Don’t ever take that stuff lightly, they always say they will change but an abuser will always be an abuser.
He will kill you next time. Get out now.
Woah… was the choking a sex kink or was it assault? If it was assault, please leave. I’ve heard it takes a long time to asphyxiate somebody.. But if he’s choking you that hard, You could be doing real damage to your trachea etc.. In which case there are video tutorials on how to do it properly.
Ma’am, you are a victim of GBV by now and many times I have realised it’s hard for women to leave relationships like these. But you should leave as early as you can because it starts with one choke or punch and when you tolerate such it will become like a cycle until you are stuck in the relationship forever or you will just leave dead.
The realization that this relationship is over will always be very hard. But ma’am he will kill you! Start getting your game plan together and then hit the road! You will NEVER be able to change him and he will do it again!
This happened to my daughter and she left him not long after…If you stay with him whatever happens is on you .. leave his sorry ass now .. I don’t mean it’s your fault , I mean get out now or he’ll kill you
It doesn’t matter how little money you have or how little skills you have. This is possibly your last chance to leave before you die. I’ve been there. The first few years are hard. But if you don’t leave, there may not be another time to go, you may not get another warning.
Imagine if someone held a gun to your head and said walk out of your house right now with your kids or they’re pulling the trigger. You’d leave without thinking because you know you’d die if you stayed. This is the same thing, you just don’t see the gun. You have to leave. There are shelters, you may have friends, it’s better to live under an overpass than die in a house to a monster.
literally here to upvote everyone who says “he’ll kill you” because they are RIGHT and there’s research that demonstrates you are in grave danger.
Please leave him and go stay with family
Why on earth are you still with him? He basically almost killed you and was possibly TRYING to kill you.
He’s going to kill you. Let that sink in. Men who strangle their partner are 700% likely to kill them.
hi. i worked in domestic violence shelters and hotlines for many years. i’m so sorry for what’s happening, it’s not your fault. even if you can’t leave right now, you could talk to an advocate over the phone and get help safety planning and maybe other resources. they can help you figure out how to keep yourself and your kids as safe as possible and give you ideas on things you can do that will help long term, until hopefully one day you can make a change. if you want help finding an organization in your area you can dm me, or if you’re in the US you can call 800.799.SAFE
All of the advice here. Please listen to what these women are telling you. Another thing I could add- listen to podcasts like Dating Detectives. It’s about women who figured out how to leave their abusive relationships. It might give you some hope, ideas, courage. You are not alone, you are not the first person to figure out how to leave a seemingly impossible situation.
He’ll kill you
I’m going to be very blunt, because I know this position, I’ve been you. Get out as soon as you can, before he unalives you. I’m not joking. This is life or death, he may get worse, and you need to be here.
Walk out today with the baby. Go straight to a shelter.
When a man chokes a woman, the chances of him killing her increases over 750%. He will kill you. Do you want to leave your children with them man or his family once he kills you? Call family, call a DV shelter. Do whatever you have to do. Make a plan and leave. Please!!!!!
You are lucky to be alive and need to get out of there asap.
He WILL kill you.
i hope she will get out out this, sending prayers 🙏
This happened to me. I was with him for 10 years. The last time he choked me, I knew I was dying. I felt at peace. I called police and they took him to jail.
I still wanted to be with him even after I got the restraining order.
I met someone else and fell so deeply in love, but I sabotaged the relationship because I still thought that he was the one.
It is one of my greatest regrets. He went on to do the same thing to his next girlfriend as well.
Please, try. Even if you tell yourself it is temporary… I wish I didn’t lose my twenties to that man. He would have killed me if I had stayed even longer. He did it to me 4 times. Twice, it was so bad that I had bruises and welts all over my body. Bloodshot eyes.
Leave him, please. Please, please, please.
You need to make a plan to leave safely as soon as possible. Call some friends and family to support you. You need to get out. We are rooting for you.
I give it a day till this fake post gets deleted after all the updoots stop flowing in
Gradual escalation violence. That’s what this could be with you. If allowed to continue, you could end up on 48hrs as a case they chose to film about or on youtubes crime channels. You’ve got kids, ask your family back home to send money, if they can. So you can get out of there. Go to the police and ask what you can do.
How long do you think it’ll be before he keeps strangling you and doesn’t stop? Probably the next time he blows up.
He is going to kill you. You need to leave. Please. Please. Please leave. Don’t leave your children with him. Take them and go. The next time he does this call the cops immediately after. If he is choking you that hard there will be evidence of it underneath the surface and your brain/body will show evidence. It will be an attempted murder charge on him. Especially if your kids can articulate that daddy put his hands on mommy. And if you do what another commenter said. Send emails to the other email that you never log into. Make sure you delete the sent emails from the email you do use.
Plan your exit in the meantime and keep saving money.
I’m so sorry… If push comes to shove…fight back. Put that son of a cunt behind bars forever.
Make sure your affairs are always in order because he’s going to kill you at some point.
if there is a gun in your home this is even more serious and urgent.
OP, please please get yourself and kids safe