Im the oldest of 5, so i had to grow up as the third parent to my siblings. Starting from 10 when i started learning kitchen skills, now im in my early twenties and have for years gave them discipline, cooked, cleaned, drove them to school/doc appts, did library visits to encourage reading, help with honework, teach them to bake, all that jazz. My parents love us but both work full time- dont have so many kids if you dont have time for them!!!- but i digress. Point is, my life is generally forced to be about others.
A man comes around, and for the first time since i had no siblings, life can be all about what i want. I want to wear a pretty dress and makeup and be driven to a nice restaurant? HE makes the plans, i just sit there and look pretty. I have a ton of heavy groceries? I dont lift ANYTHING. I want a really cool perfume? No questions asked, he plans ahead to save money and buy it. He goes to work, and i now sit at home making fun little treats for us. I get to go fo the hair and nail salon for the first time in my life!! He doesnt call me a bimbo or vain like my parents did for wanting all this. For once, i dont have to be on top of everything at the same time.
I know this kind of life is totally normal and maybe even bleing for other people but im just so tired that it appeals to me like crazy. Im taken care of for once, not vice versa.
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It’s nice to be taken care of for a change. Cherish him, love him, give back to him, and enjoy your life together ❤️
This makes me happy to read. Good on you! And be good to him 💖
Please… Return the favour. Get a job where you work a few hours a week, pitch in. Show him you care by doing stuff like this for him.
Trust me, he is showing you his love language, if you want this to last, show it right back.
What a beautiful post to see from an eldest daughter. As the eldest who also was the born spare parent, I’m so so damn happy for you!
This is so beautifully said you’ve carried so much responsibility for so long, it makes total sense that being cared for feels both strange and comforting. You absolutely deserve to feel soft, safe, and valued. It’s not “bizarre” at all it’s healing.
It is a magical experience and can also be very scary.
My husband is the same. Been together for 12 years now, still not quite used to it. 😅 In the beginning, I thought it is a phase, it will pass. It didn’t.
Cherish him and appreciate him! And enjoy being taken care of! Sometimes it is a bit difficult ❤️
you deserve it!
All the best to the both of you!
Fingers crossed that this will happen to me as well one day.
I’m the oldest of four, so I can totally relate to your experiences
“This kind of life is totally normal,” I think it’s not that normal, I think most people have to work as an economic reality of our current world and situation.
That doesn’t diminish that I’m happy for you, just hope you have that perspective too. 🙂
Where do you meet a man like that? Asking for a friend
This is nice
So weird how Reddit has lately been infiltrated by these posts where essentially the trad wife life is being pushed as something desirable…
These have been only popping up as of late so I’m pretty sure it’s part of an agenda.
No, he doesn’t go to work and takes care of everything else while you make “fun little treats” at home.
Being a stay at home is hard fucking work and it’s again just being dismissed as “being the home queen and chilling. It is not. It’s clearly BS
Nice try.
Manifesting a love like this ✨🧿🥰
Enjoy it! Make sure to spoil him too! A man that takes care of you is top tier. I married one. He is the most supportive partner. The best father too. I fall in love with him more every single day.