There was a guy I cared about for quite a few years, but for whatever reason, he seems to remember his version of how things went down between us. We’ve known each other for years, but 90% of his mistreatment towards me happened when we were adults.
He came to me multiple times saying he loved me, wanted to date me, and couldn’t take his mind off of me. I was hesitant because of the was he’s treated me, most notably yelling at me after I changed my mind about sleeping with him; I believe I had a migraine at the time.
I finally reached out to him and just simply asked him why he did all those things, just so I had some sort of closure, and as he’s done before, he claimed to be this nice wonderful person who has changed, that he tried so hard to be friends with me and I just couldn’t accept that.
When in reality, last time we talked in 2024, he was sending me half naked photos in the bathroom-not something I’m sure friends do.
Instead of talking this out with me like an adult, he had his girlfriend message me and curse me out, something he did when we were in college and he was dating someone else.
I know I sound stupid right now, but things were good when they were good between me and this guy. I feel like I’m going crazy.
TL;DR guy friend possibly twisting my version of reality and making me feel bad about wanting closure
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Just block him and be done with the drama. He’s not anything great.
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