Hey so Im talking to a guy rnn and it’s been alright and I wouldn’t say he’s a bad person but sometimes he’s acting weird and tbh I dont really know if I’d want to get in a relationship with him even tho that’s where we’re going rnnn.. I don’t like him like that.. anyway yesterday I found out that he’s 19 even tho he always told me he’s 17. I’m 15 and I feel so betrayed like I didn’t know what to doo.. đ I don’t want to be with him but I also don’t want to cut him off like that..
He told me he’s 17 but he’s 19 what do I do?
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Tell your parents
This man is a creep. You need to learn when you need to cut a guy off, and this is one of those times. Setting aside the legality of the situation, he lied to you and you found out. Why would you want to be with someone who does not care enough about you to be honest to you?
He is a predator. He IS a bad person. You donât have to feel bad for cutting someone off who is trying to groom you so they can take advantage of you.
Save as much evidence you can of what happened (screenshots, for instance). Block him everywhere and tell your parents or an other adult you can trust (teacher, doctor, counselor, parent of a good friend).
What he did is not ok and he will be looking for another victim.
Cut him off. Donât feel bad about it. Thatâs creepy as fuck on his part.
I’m sorry to say but he probably just said that because it would make him more accessible to you as a minor. I would keep him at arms length if possible. Stand your ground. Sometimes it’s not about being nice it’s about protecting yourself.
Good luck, I had similar things happen to me with a coworker when I was 14. I started to feel he was a creep after I found out his age because he never told me until i found out from someone else. I remained nice enough to not cause a scene (we worked together so we were “friends” at work but off the clock I slowly distanced myself) but warned the girls I was friends with about him. :/ He did end up trying to pursue like 4 other girls my age and another girl who was 13 and was outed for being a pedo a few years later soo yeah. Super sus behavior…. Guys don’t lie about their age for no reason to minors
He lied about his age and thatâs a massive red flag. Trust your gut now before things get worse. Cutting him off isnât cruelitâs protecting yourself. People who lie early will hurt you later. Stay safe and tell someone you trust. This isnât something to handle alone. Please block him without guilt.
Honestly you need to cut him off immediately. Before things inevitably get worse. Please protect yourself
Ruuuuuun. Tell your parents immediately, as in tomorrow morning, tell your school councilor about this if youâre in summer school or anything.
This guy is a predator, he lied to you about his age because he knew what he is doing is illegal.
Block this guys number and any socials you share, do not engage with him ever again.Â
Absolutely cut him off and do not feel bad about cutting off a pedophilic predator. He is a worthless piece of trash, nothing about him is good.Â
Lies are not good foundations to a relationship. Let that relationship go and find someone who builds their relationship with you on truth. Don’t fall for it.
Also, 15!!! Does he know that??
Oh my, cut ties with that guy ASAP and let your parents know about it if you’ve shared anything personal with him that could jeopardize your life đŹ
Nope. 19 is above legal age 15 is below, thatâs not cool. I wouldnât continue any interaction, especially when they are lying to be below legal age
This is coercion.
He believed you wouldn’t want to date him if he told you his true age, so he lied in order to manipulate you into dating him. That’s coercion at best, and a gigantic red flag for all the other lies he wouldn’t mind telling you in order to get what he wants, on top of this adult going after a 15 yo. Gross.
Run far away from him.
Tell your parents, tell your teacher and stay away from this guy.
Donât tell him youâre not interested or explain just stop speaking with him. If you do have to speak with him give short answers and donât ask any questions so the conversation stops quickly.
Where are you from and what is your religion.
Culture matters and advice will depend on that
He’s a liar.
Worse, he lied to YOU.
You cannot trust him. You cannot fix him.
Red flag
No.. just no!Â
heâs a potential pedo! Cease contact immediately! Tell your parents &/or law enforcement. Do not meet up with this person nor keep in contact.
19 and 15 is not ok. Keep your distance. Stay with your friends. Tell 1, or 2 of them and see if they walk with you to class.
No .
No .
Again no.
If you get involved . After being told three times no.
Then it is what it is . If something bad happens you walked into it .
Only talk to people you know irl, and even then be wary.