He wanted me to “be cool” with him still sharing a bed with his female best friend

r/

I (25F) recently started dating “Jake” (26M). It was going great, until he casually mentioned he was flying to LA to visit his best friend, Kim. I didn’t think much of it… until I asked where he was staying.

“Oh, with her. We’ll share her bed like usual.”

Sorry, what?

He said they’ve been best friends since college and it’s “never been weird.” They’ve always slept in the same bed when he visits. It’s just “comfortable.”

I said I wasn’t okay with that now that we’re together. He got defensive and accused me of being jealous. He even said, “It’s a you problem. Kim gets me in a way you never will.”

So… I told him to go sleep in her bed permanently.

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    Backup of the post’s body: I (25F) recently started dating “Jake” (26M). It was going great, until he casually mentioned he was flying to LA to visit his best friend, Kim. I didn’t think much of it… until I asked where he was staying.

    “Oh, with her. We’ll share her bed like usual.”

    Sorry, what?

    He said they’ve been best friends since college and it’s “never been weird.” They’ve always slept in the same bed when he visits. It’s just “comfortable.”

    I said I wasn’t okay with that now that we’re together. He got defensive and accused me of being jealous. He even said, “It’s a you problem. Kim gets me in a way you never will.”

    So… I told him to go sleep in her bed permanently.

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  3. Fancy-Project-6217 Avatar

    I’m with you! Not okay. Call me when you’re done with her please

  4. BeeJackson Avatar

    Respect! Let that shiftless sh.t of a man go.

  5. rocketmn69_ Avatar

    That’s the only response necessary