So I have recently been dating someone. We mutually agreed we wanted to make it exclusive. He has said he has feelings for me. Seems like a good guy and all. So we were on our first date night as an official couple. While drinking and shooting the breeze and having a good time, I asked to add him on FB. He said “I don’t really use FB”. So I was like “sure thang but we like literally met on fb dating and gave him the side eye”. I think he realized I knew was full of it so he then goes “I don’t do that fb relationship status and lovey dovey stuff”. Well of course I have scoured his fb already when we first met to try and get a little insight on the guy I’m seeing, and he indeed has had a few fb official relationship status’s, and lovey dovey stuff with former partners. He also has a large number of friends and appears active on the site.
So now I don’t trust this. It makes me think he wants to appear single, and there are people that he doesn’t want to know about me or vice versa, and I’m not ok with being good enough to sleep with him but not good enough to be known about as his gf (he has clearly stated that I am his gf, this is not a situationship or fwb). Now being that it is brand new i am totally good with holding off on making things fb official and posting corny statuses. But what’s wrong with simply adding me and maybe posting up some pics of us on our fun date nights?
I don’t want to over-react. But at the same time I don’t want to get caught up in some toxic miserable relationship where I wonder if they are cheating or why I’m not good enough. I can make a tinder account, swipe all weekend, and have 1000 matched by Monday. Everybody is replacable. I would rather take the L now early on before there are too many emotions involved to make it harder to leave then next thing you know you’re miserable.
TLDR: New boo wont add me on social media, I find it sus.