TL;DR
Hi F/18 recently ever since i’ve gotten into my first relationship which it has been 4 months into and I’ve been having dreams where i kiss other boys and i have always written down my dreams, so naturally i wrote these down too.
Two days ago while my boyfriend M/18 was over at my house i decided to take a nap. The next day my boyfriend was acting weird and the whole vibe was off so i decided to ask him what was wrong.
he then told me he went through my phone while i was sleeping and went through my messages, where he found nothing, and my notes… where he saw my “kissing dreams.”
I felt ashamed and embarrassed to the point where i started crying and made him leave my house. he tried to text me to apologize but was still acting visibly upset and i feel like I can’t talk about it, I feel too ashamed.
What should I do?
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You gotta talk to him. Bottom line. Really talk though and listen to him as well. Best of luck.
Going through the phone is far more egregious. Don’t let yourself start to think it is okay, it is not. Break it off. He’ll keep looking and finding nothing but will make up further ways to upset himself.
He went through your phone while you were sleeping? Finds dreams and has an attitude with you? First id lock my phone. You cant control your dreams, keep writing em down. Maybe have a talk with him about boundaries and his jealousy issues. If you still cant trust him or hes continues to be jealous then you may need to drop him. What hes doing could be a red flag or it could be cuz yr both young and still learning how to be in a relationship.
“My bf invaded privacy and discovered that I have dreams just like any other person. How can I make this right?”
I love how it’s the uncontrollable unpredictable dreams that you focused on and not the fact he invaded your privacy.
This is why I stopped journaling. Because assholes can’t mind their own business. What’s he doing going through your phone while you’re not awake? He invaded your privacy and got mad at what he found. He screwed up here not you. If he didn’t want to find something he shouldn’t have gone looking. Especially when your dreams are subconscious. Not intentional or acted upon. What a turd.