I would prefer not to tell my age. I am female and I think I am lesbian. I’ve dated 2 guys before and I only seem to like them sexually. I could never see myself building a future with a guy or having children. It seems exhausting! The problem is I tried telling my mom I don’t want children or her friends when they ask me but they just tell me that one day I’ll find “the dream man” and will probably want children. It’s like they’re trying to convince me to have it. I don’t know either how to tell my mom I like girls because she will probably have a mental breakdown.
Help me?
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You should express your feelings clearly and calmly. Sometimes, people won’t understand right away, but it’s important to stand firm.
It’s tough, but your life is yours. If it feels safe, talk to your mom when you’re ready.
You don’t owe anyone kids or a “dream man” just because they can’t imagine a different path. Take your time coming out, do it when you feel safe and ready, not when they expect it.
Live your truth quietly if you must but never let their dream man rewrite your real identity. You don’t owe anyone a performance of who they hope you’ll be one day, your peace will matter more than their expectations ever did.
The truth Will set you free.
Can you see yourself building a future with a woman
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Man or woman you’ll have partners in both who want a family and children so I think your approach is a bit wrong here;) you just have to find a partner who doesn’t want children and with whom you have a connection. In the end that’s the most important part.
There’s already too many humans. I know my brother and I disappointed mom by not “giving” her grandkids. But she accepted it. And it’s the only way I can passively save the planet. I tried recycling but I’m pretty sure it just goes in the ocean anyway. I like planet earth. Stop making people! 🤣
Pas obligée de vider ton sac à ta mère et laisse les tantes te raconter comme c’est bien de s’occuper d’un nourrisson et d’etre inquiète dès que ton gamin n’est pas sous ton nez et que l’adolescence est un moment sympa pour les parents et que le mec de ton enfant n’est pas un sale con qui abuse d’elle…
Les chiens aboient, la caravane passe.