My 18 year old has been going down a dark path even further now, he tells me about later this year wanting to “try something thrilling” go “urban exploring”, to hang out smoking and camping out overnight in a graveyard and deserted areas with dodgy “friends” I have never seen or met? I tell him no and he says what if he is mature? I tell him no, he lives under my roof and I will not allow such happenings if I feel it is not safe, let alone doing an activity to such dodgy areas doing dodgy things, and I have every right to know who he is going to be with and where. Maturity he says? Those low grades and poor focus and performance in school say otherwise, nor is trying to rebel against my rules. Want to be able to come and go as he pleases? He can pack his bags and move out. He then grabs my wrists over this and shakes me, and screams at me, imploring I listen to him and telling me I am “useless and heartless” and I am thinking whether to call the cops on him. AITA or am I doing the right thing and just simply looking out for my kid?
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Really being 18, you cannot dictate anything he does outside of your house. You can give him curfews, but if you’re so upset by all this, don’t let him stay there.
Now him shaking you, yeah you can call the cops, but nothing positive is going to come of it.
He’s his own person, if you do not like it tell him to move out.
Before responding, check OP’s post history. OP is south african, fanatically religious, more judgemental than thirty dead popes, and massively overinvolved in her child’s life.