Resume for my years friendship with that girl – we had a talk about my feelings 4 years ago. Her main issue with me, at least back then, was that I was not interested in anything except gaming and being shy and not talkative person.
Since then, a lot has changed – I am super talkative person, who’s living alone, taking care for himself, bills and all that, hitting the gym ( lost like 15kgs for 9 months, totally different person ) and while I play games, it’s not like before and I am not consumed by them.
Me and this girl had a few months “break” from each other due to personal stuff, but for 2 months, we’ve been going in a weird path – we chat daily, we go out ( in group or just the two of us ) more often, we call each other with “our nicknames”. She is even asking stuff like “Hey, next week there will be that event, wanna go?” and similar invitations.
So far good right? Well, there is one thing that kinda worries me – she does not go for hugs most of the times. She wouldn’t back off if I touch her cheeks, nose, face overall, but the moment ( Mostly for hello and goodbye ) I go for a hug – she either hug me for a second and backs off immediately or just gives me high five, which I don’t think speaks good for “potential romantic feelings”
What do you think about the entire situation?
TL:DR – Close friend acting more interested in doing things together but I see some things that screams “she does not like you as you would like”
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Sounds like she enjoys spending time with you and values the friendship, but the lack of physical affection is a sign she might not see it as romantic. If you’re unsure, the only way to know for sure is to be upfront and ask, otherwise you’ll keep overanalyzing every small signal.
None of this is conclusive. She could just not be a hugger. She could not like you like that and is enforcing a boundary. She’s nervous around you and is limiting touch because of that.
I know you were really hoping that this would be the clue that would give you a definitive answer, but you’re going to have to a) ask her directly if she has feelings for you or b) wait around forever on the off off chance that on the 1,000th hug she shoves her tongue down your throat.