Hi I am not sure what to do so here i am at 2:39 am writing this even though I have a 9 hour drive tomorrow. I (16F) was with my boyfriend (16M) for almost 7 months. I broke it off like two days ago because I didn’t see us compatible.
For context I had just went to a summer camp as a counselor in training. There I was essentially a counselor with no pay and no time off dealing with ten years who didn’t know how to listen. I was mentally exhausted when I got back to “civilization” if you will. I was super dry to my boyfriend which I understand can be frustrating. I told him that I was exhausted and sick (my camper got a fever twice and passed it to
me). He kinda disregarded me but accepted that I needed my time and that was that.
Well later in the day he texted me again and I told him I was driving. He got mad when I didn’t answer and was insinuating that I was ignoring him when I was genuinely driving around. Later, my mom and I arrived at my grandparents and, exhausted and sick, I took a nap. The next day I napped the whole day again, because I was having the worse migraine I had ever had. So fast forward to my birthday celebration the next day. I was hanging out with my family the whole day and didn’t really text him besides send a few tiktok’s. Then next day arrives and later in the evening we had a huge argument. He made a sexual joke and I really did not like it and I have told him that I don’t like it when he makes me so sexualized but he blew up at me. He started talking about how I do this and this and this to him and I am never sincere. Also how I never apologize but he never tells me things that I have done wrong
in the relationship until I say something about him. I don’t bring it up in an argumentative way either I try to work
it out like constructive criticism but he just sees it as criticism. During this whole argument he degraded me and telling me that how I view things in a relationship is just not how it works. For example I told him I don’t want to text all the time and need my own space like “me time”. He was telling me that that is not how a relationship works and that it shouldn’t be abnormal to hear “i love you” all the time. Which is something I don’t like because it doesn’t get meaningful after a while and I’d rather see acts of love than just hear it. This totally hurt me and broke my trust with him and my mom thinks that is a gaslighted and manipulator.
However, he texted me wanting to get back to together and I don’t know what to do. I am not sure if this is salvageable but I don’t know if I should give it a chance. Please give me advice and be BRUTALLY honest (even if you think i am in the wrong).
TL;DR: My boyfriend blew up at me in an argument and degraded me the whole
time. He later apologized and asked to get back together. I don’t know if I should give him another chance and need help/advice on what to do.