To anyone reading Hi! I will try to make this brief as possible and informative as possible.
I’m 25. My daughter is 5. Her dad is 26. My daughter’s father and I split up shortly after she was born. I’ve moved on and so has he.
He still behaves like he’s 17. Can’t hold a job. Drinks every night. Lives with his mom. No car. No liscense. Different gf/multiple girlfriends every few months. He brings our daughter around each girl as well.
Since he’s not exactly an adult it’s hard to co parent. He will go days without responding to calls or messages concerning our daughter. Ignores calls from our daughter. Even in the event of emergencies concerning our daughter it’s hard to reach him.
I do not keep my daughter from her dad or his family. So she goes to her grandmothers house every weekend because her dad lives with his mother. As I said he doesn’t have a car or license so he can’t meet me to pick up our daughter. They live about an hour from me and I meet up with his mother to do drop off and pick up.
My daughter started expressing and crying tears to me at 4 years old multiple times that her dad doesn’t spend time with her and that she doesn’t see him on weekends. She tells me he’s gone or only comes to sleep.
So essentially on weekends her primary care giver is her grandmother.
I’ve had fights with his mom because she can’t respect things I do with my daughter. She doesn’t like how I do her hair. She doesn’t like it if we make plans and she can’t see her on the weekend. She doesnt like any decision I make regards my daughter. She’s cursed me out. Threatened me. Verbally disrespected me. Mutiple times
My daughter has an allergy to red 40 and anything red or acidic and she feeds my child spaghetti-os and raviolios and god knows what else she’s not supposed to have.
She doesn’t listen to anything I say regards my child.
Recently she took my daughter to the doctor because she’s been having an eczema breakout in her arms. I get a call from the doctor that they are calling cps because they suspect SA.
What the hell?!?!?!?
I think she’s trying to get custody of my child.
She has again cursed me out because I told her I was not letting my daughter go to her house for awhile since I have CPS involved. Shes threatened me with legal action. All I said was I need to figure out this CPS situation.
I think she called CPS.
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Grandmother is not telling you something. Very concerning. She should be investigated.
Legal advice, IMMEDIATELY, not reddit. Sorry this is happening to you, good luck for best resolution.
There are many things here that so clear and aren’t necessarily supposed to be mentioned again because someone may respond with “no shit!” Or “that’s obvious”…), For example your daughter’s father who’s a complete lunatic immature person who cannot take responsibilities of being a father or his careless mother who thinks that your daughter is her’s…
Even though I’ve never been in one of these situations before, what I can tell you is:
1- document everything, keep a detailed record of all the interactions with the grandma or the father. Every documented date or conversations matter.
2- reach a lawyer, with all those treats and the authorities involvement it is necessary that you speak to an actual lawyer or a person that knows the law over these cases, that will guide you and make you know what right to do.
And lastly be cooperative with the cps and express your concerns about your daughter’s care and safety when she’s with her father and grandmother.
Lawyer the fuck up. She’s supposed to be with dad not grandma. And dad ain’t home. So he doesn’t get custody. Lawyer lawyer lawyer.
If he doesn’t have any legal custody, stop sending her over there. Something weird is going on. She’s not seeing her dad, so she doesn’t need to be there. Document everything. I would recommend talking to a lawyer. If she wants to see her dad, think about supervised visitation, and not with his mother. He likely won’t show up.
If he doesn’t have legal custody of her then stop sending her over there! And document everything! 🤦🏾♀️