I have a 28-year-old younger brother who moved in with me last year after losing his job. He promised it would only be for a couple of months until he got back on his feet. Instead, it’s been over a year and he hasn’t made a single effort to find work.
I’ve been scraping by myself after a rough financial patch. I work long hours just to cover rent and bills, and I’ve had to cut back on everything I enjoy. On top of that, I’ve been dealing with anxiety and a pile of debt from years ago.
Meanwhile, he spends his days gaming, ordering food, and leaving a mess everywhere. I’ve come home to dirty dishes piled up, trash bags sitting in the hallway, and the electricity bill higher than ever because he leaves everything on all night. I’ve been doing whatever I can to make extra cash, streaming when I have the energy, picking up random freelance gigs such as pressure washing, and even checking sports picks on MonsterBet once in a while.
I only wanted to help him, but now I feel like I’m being taken advantage of. I’m drained, both emotionally and financially, and I don’t know how to get through to him without blowing up.
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I had a similar situation with my brother. I gave him 30 days to leave and repeatedly made it clear that it was non-negotiable. It was a difficult discussion and of course he was very upset and gave me all the bullshit about how heartless I was etc.
Deliver the message and stick to the date. No matter how many times he asks, hold firm.
My brother left and basically went no contact with me. It’s unfortunate but if that’s his decision then so be it
Give him an ultimatum…get a job within 14 days and start contributing or you’re out on day 15!
You’ve been more than accomodating!