He(M32) said he doesn’t want to call me(F31) his ‘girlfriend’ but we are ‘in a relationship’?

I (F31) have been seeing my “not boyfriend” for a year. We started out as what was meant to just be a one night stand which lead to consistent hook ups, which lead to dates, which lead to being exclusive and now we have spent every night together since last June.

I had assumed we were a full on couple after not having an official talk about it because he pursued me so strongly and because he has asked for monogamy. We have met each others friends and family and see each other and talk every day. Everything seemed great until we had a talk last week.

He told me that he has never intended on being in the country we live in and had planned on leaving and never coming back. He went to college and studied to do something that he can’t do in this country and he only ended up back here because of a loss in his family and his intention was to leave again.

I wouldn’t be opposed to leaving the country but I have a daughter whose father lives here so it wouldn’t be any time soon. He said he is torn between doing what he’s always planned to do and staying here to be with me and he needs more time to decide. I have fallen madly in love with him and I’m worried that I’m being manipulated and used as a place holder for him. I’m not sure if this is a valid thing or if I should walk away now.

TDLR; Guy I’m seeing for a year doesn’t want to call me his GF because he doesn’t know if he wants to pursue his long life dream of travelling or settle down.