There is one golden rule of wedding etiquette that supersedes almost all others. You do not wear white if you are not the bride, and you absolutely, under no circumstances, use someone else’s wedding as a venue for your own major life announcement. No proposals. No coming out speeches. And definitely no pregnancy announcements. But one sister on Reddit apparently thinks she is the main character of the universe, and she just got a harsh reality check from a bride with a long memory.
Our narrator is a 30-year-old woman preparing for her wedding. It should be a time of joy and last-minute panic about seating charts. But instead, she is dealing with family drama that dates back two years. You see, when her younger sister Jessica got married, our narrator was going through a personal hell. Her ex had left her for another woman just weeks before the wedding. She was devastated. She was heartbroken.
Despite her pain, she showed up for Jessica. All she asked for was a tiny crumb of comfort. She asked Jessica to throw the bouquet to her for a little bit of luck, or even just let her hold it for a picture. It was a small, sentimental request from a grieving sister. And Jessica said no. She refused because she “didn’t wanna damage it.” She prioritized a bundle of dying flowers over her sister’s broken heart. That is the kind of coldness that sticks with you.
Fast forward to the present. The tables have turned. The narrator is the bride, and Jessica is the one asking for a favor. But Jessica isn’t asking for a photo op. She is pregnant, and she wants to announce it at the narrator’s wedding. She wants to take the microphone, or the toast, or the spotlight, and shift the entire focus of the room from the couple getting married to her own uterus.
The audacity is truly breathtaking. She denied her sister a private moment of comfort because she cared about a floral arrangement, but now she expects that same sister to hand over the biggest day of her life so she can get some applause? The math is not mathing.
The narrator, rightfully, said absolutely not. She gave two very solid reasons. First, the wedding is for her and her fiancé. This is the only reason she needs. Period. End of sentence. But she also gave the second reason, which is the one that makes this story so delicious. She reminded Jessica that she refused a simple favor at her own wedding, so why should the narrator grant a massive one at hers?
Jessica is “pissed” and calling the narrator ridiculous. Their mother is calling her childish. But let us look at the facts here. A pregnancy announcement at a wedding is widely considered one of the tackiest moves in the playbook. It forces every guest to stop celebrating the couple and start fawning over the pregnant relative. It is an attention heist.
For the mom to side with Jessica just proves that the golden child dynamic is alive and well in this family. They are gaslighting the bride into thinking she is being mean for protecting her own event, when in reality, Jessica is the one being wildly inappropriate. She wants the attention of a wedding without paying for the venue.
The bride is worried because the wedding is tomorrow and her family is giving her the silent treatment. Honestly, she should enjoy the silence. If they are sitting there stewing because they aren’t allowed to make a scene, that sounds like a them problem.
So is she the ahole? Not even a little bit. N-T-A. You are not the ahole for banning a pregnancy announcement at your wedding. That is standard operating procedure. The fact that it also serves as karmic justice for the bouquet incident is just the icing on the cake. Enjoy your day, and if Jessica tries to grab a mic, cut the sound.