Hey Reddit,
TL;DR: I (33F) have been casually dating a guy (33M) for about 4 months. When we started, we both agreed it would just be casual and not develop into anything serious. However, as time went on, I caught real feelings for him—and I also lost my virginity to him in the process. Here’s where things get messy: he’s still in regular contact with his ex. They meet up sometimes on weekends for “emotional support.” Their breakup was mainly due to religious differences, but they’ve stayed friends since. I know he cares about me—he’s told me he has some feelings—but he also says he’s not ready for a relationship and wants to go slow with us. I’m feeling confused, hurt, and honestly a bit stuck. It’s hard to understand my place in his life when he’s still seeing his ex. I care about him but don’t want to be stuck in limbo or drain myself emotionally waiting for something that might never happen. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How do you move on from someone you developed feelings for in a “no-strings” situation, especially when they aren’t ready for anything more? Should I wait and hope things change, or start focusing on letting go now for my own well-being? Any advice or insight would be really appreciated. Thank you!
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Hey, I totally feel you 💔 It’s really hard when feelings sneak in where you thought things were “just casual.” Honestly, if he’s still emotionally involved with his ex and not ready for a serious relationship, it’s okay to protect your own heart first. Waiting for someone to change can drain you, and you deserve someone who’s all in for you.
Maybe focus on yourself, your art, and your goals for now, someone who’s ready will come along when the time is right. Don’t settle for being the “in-between”, you’re worth so much more than that. Sending hugs from the other side of the screen 🤗