I didn’t expect this to turn into what it has. When we started hooking up, it was supposed to be casual. But the way he acts now feels suffocating. He gets jealous if I talk to other guys, even just friends, and he’s made comments about who I should or shouldn’t hang around. Sometimes he’ll ask where I’m going or who I’m with like he has a right to know.
If I don’t answer his texts fast enough, he’ll bring it up and make me feel guilty. He’s even said things like “You shouldn’t be with anyone else while you’re with me,” which makes no sense since he keeps saying it’s not a relationship. It’s like he wants all the control of being a boyfriend without ever admitting to it.
It’s gotten to the point where I feel watched and boxed in, and that was never the deal. I wanted casual, not someone trying to control what I do and who I see.
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He’s trying to claim boyfriend privileges without giving you an actual relationship. That’s not casual, that’s controlling. If you feel boxed in now, it’s only gonna get worse… time to cut it off before it eats away at your peace
I’m sorry that he’s treating you this way. Even with a boyfriend or partner, this behavior isn’t acceptable. We do not cut off friends just because they happen to be a different gender and our fwb says so which is what he wants. In any relationship, no matter how serious, there has to be a level of trust and he doesn’t with you. You’re seeing right now how controlling he can and will get as a person. The fact that he doesn’t want the title means he most likely sees you as an object that’s already his and not a person who he likes/loves enough to be in a committed relationship with.
Questions if you actually want to talk about it: Are you still sleeping with him frequently? Did you start setting boundaries when this started happening? Are you even still talking to him rn?