Hetero men: How old were you when you started getting interested in girls? What was your first attempt at female attention?
Hetero men: How old were you when you started getting interested in girls? What was your first attempt at female attention?
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I can’t remember because I was pretty young at the time, but I have been told that I came out of the womb, got handed off to a nurse, look up at the nurse, smiled and then reached out and grabbed her boob. So I am gunna say I was born interested in women.
I think even from a really young age (5) I knew I was interested in girls, but at the time like celebrities. my first real girlfriend and wanting to date didnt happen til high school, 17ish.
Edit: I always wanted female attention as far as I can remember
For me it felt quite late compared to my peers.
Puberty had definitely hit by 14 but it took until then before I had proper crushes
Elizabeth was my “gf” at age 6. I think she was 8 or so. LOL
About 6. My first attempt at about 11.
My earliest memories of it I believe I was 5, but no later than 6. I can think of two separate events, but I’m not sure which was first, and it was a very unsettled time in my life so things in general are very confusing.
Idk. Some time in the 5th grade I by instinct masterbated to a teacher with a huge rack
Sometime around my preteens. Discovered porn and figured that out pretty quickly after
First attempt wasn’t even really an attempt. Let a cute (albeit crazy) classmate put twigs in my hair during recess when she asked. All I got out of it was tree sap on my scalp I needed to wash out.
So yeah. Attempting to get attention really was never my thing.
2nd grade
Interested? Like 5 or 6. This girl had a crush on me and id just try to be around her as much as possible even though she hit me a lot
Maybe 14-15 y/o.
First crush was at five, first “relationship” was when I was six or so.
I was 6 and the teaches aid had my attention from what I remember
For me it was some point in 10th grade.
My first attempt was when I tried asking out a girl in my class. We were in a magnet program at the school, and she was one of the smartest people in my class, and we were friends at the time. I had timed asking her out for the end of the fall semester, that way if I got rejected, I’d have the winter break to recover (I was really sensitive back then). Except… I didn’t actually get and answer then. She told me she wanted to focus on midterms – which wasn’t unreasonable to me at the time. Like I said, she was one of the smartest people in the class, and she worked for it.
So I waited the 2 weeks of winter break, then another week for midterms once we got back. I asked her again, and THEN she friend zoned me.
I was probably 4 yrs old when my parents caught me smooching the neighbors 4 yr old daughter. Its been down hill since.
Normal*. I was younger than ten
Four. My first attempt was smacking a girl (sorry) when I was around that age. My next attempt a year later with a different girl was going up and talking to her. That worked much better for some reason.
Pan here but on women, I’m not entirely sure, mid teens I think. I remember by the middle of high school I was dealing with it and it was really rough, there were a few girls interested in me that got wildly hot and cold treatment from me before I pulled away entirely. I certainly didn’t approach anyone and it wasn’t long afterwards that it was a rough enough struggle that I really tried to shove it down and ignore it as much as possible. Puberty was a really bad time for me.
I truly don’t remember when it happened. Even as a kid, I never bought into that “cooties” thing. Literally as far back as I can remember, I was always attracted to women. I even remember my first day of kindergarten having a crush on one of the girls in my class. Goes back a long way.
Not sure what “first attempt at female attention” means tho. But the first time I can remember successfully making a move on a girl was at a summer camp I got sent to at the age of 12. We spent a lot of time together at camp.
I’m not sure what counts as “first attempt” tho.
Her name was Pamela.
We were in grade 3. We kissed in the bushes at recess.
First grade. Mae T. She was so pretty!
I had a “gf” at 5. We made out a lot in our backyards. the 90s were wild.
I remember finding and being very interested in my dad’s Playboys (yes I’m old) when I was still in the single digits. I also remember being attracted to the new girl in my class in about the 2nd grade. I thought she had the most beautiful eyes I had ever seen. I asked her out in the 7th grade, she turned me down flat. I had better luck with the next girl.
About 6. I also remember seeing a half naked woman when I was 8 and was mind blown
My first crush was probably 1st grade. Even then, I was interested in blondes.
All of my attempts were in vain growing up as I never had any women reciprocate any feelings towards me.
My first attempt was to be friends. Always has been and probably always will be. I want to be slow, get to know them, and “feel them out” first. That’s actually how real dating supposed to be, but so many people assume sex within the first 3 dates to be mandatory.
My first masturbation was when I was 13. I was a late bloomer.
In High school, I tried getting their attention by showing them my dick size via online chats / DMs and they all didn’t believe me. They claimed I photoshopped it or found it on Google.
These days I know better as I know most women aren’t even interested in dick size. Hands, chest, arms, butt, abs, height, hair, etc seems to be what most women look for, physically, in a man.
I pinched 2 different waitresses butts at the Hilltop Steakhouse when I was in my booster seat.
No idea which room I was in.
I was something like 6 years old. I was in holiday at my uncle’s house. And it was his neighbour’s daugter. The same age as me. Never seen her again. The feeling was new…and so powerful that decades after, I still remember her name…Sarah…
Sometimes around 4 or 5.
I turned on honk tonk by trace Adkins and my 5 year old boy was super interested in the women shaking their bedonkidonks
About 4. The Sears catalog
7 or 8 maybe. Was too chicken to make any attempt at asking someone out until I was maybe 17. Did not go well.
Grade school. I gave some girl a ring that I must have got in a gumball-type machine. They had better quality gumball jewelry back then.
10-11
Like 6.
I learned that I had a thing for pale brunettes/redheads at the age of 7 due to Titanic.
It was an awakening to say the least. I didn’t know why I couldn’t take my eyes off of Kate Winslet, but I knew that I liked her a hell of a lot more than DiCaprio for some reason.
I remember the exact moment. The summer before 7th grade. My drum teacher had his playboy magazines out in visible view, on a shelf. I found them and got obsessed.
There was this girl in 7th grade who had these massive tits and this skinny waist (weird thinking about it, but to me they were massive). She asked me how her ass looked in her jeans. I said something stupid, like I didn’t look.
Then I stalked her everywhere. I wrote poems and left them in places I hoped she would find. I did all sorts of weird ass things, hoping she would hit on me again.
Sad, I know. I was a handsome devil, but it didn’t get much better after that. Girls would hit on me, and I would fumble it for years.
I knew at a very young age that I liked girls. Never had the “icky girl germs” stage. Probably 1st grade when I noticed they were cute. 7-8 grade I started trying to spend more time with cute girls. 9-10 grade going on actual dates.
8 years old. First attempt was at 14. I started sitting at an otherwise all-female table during school lunches because I thought girls would be sweeter, kinder, and also not swear like sailors. I was wrong. I never actually tried dating and am still a virgin decades later. I do like girls, for the record.
Kindergarten I guess. I kissed so many girls.
Ever since I was very young. I wasn’t the only one. When I was in kindergarten I remember a big fad of everybody getting “married.” I got “married” to a very pretty, assertive, girl who just declared that we were now married and I went along with it. (Actually, that’s pretty much how my real marriage happened many years later.) As I recall, being married in kindergarten meant that we sat next to each other at lunch or something. That marriage only lasted a day or so.
Although any ideas of “romance” were a long way off. I had crushes on certain girls all through elementary school, but had no idea what to do about it. Girls were like mysterious alien creatures and I didn’t know how to communicate. I used to just do various silly things and hope they noticed. (Actually, that’s pretty much how I still behave. Maybe people don’t change as much as you think.)
I’ve been interested in girls and women since I was in kindergarten
My first kiss was the first time I was ever around the opposite sex, in kindergarten.
“I’ve been fucking since I was ten!”
I was maybe 10
Well, I can remember at about 4 or 5 years old giving goodnight kisses to Princess Leia on my Star Wars wallpaper before going to bed at night. Haha! She and Daisy Duke were my first crushes.
My first crush on a girl I actually knew was at 11, and I asked her to go miniature golfing with me. My mom dropped us off that afternoon, and we golfed, played some video games, and then ate pizza for lunch. Until the end of 5th grade that year we’d hold hands whenever I’d walk her home.
I was about 10 when I started hanging out with the girls next door and about 15 when I was seduced by a friend’s younger sister.
Pretty much always. Man I was a horny kid.
First grade. So I was like 6?
I went on my first date to the movies when I was 7 years old. Very small town, so no one was worried. But yeah. First date, first girlfriend, seven years old.
I probably started noticing girls in like, second or third grade. Actual attempts probably the start of middle school and like half my classmates had already been dating by the time I tried.
I feel like I was more outgoing with girls when I was younger. Around 5 or 6 I had crushes on girls in my class and would talk to older girls on the bus.
I don’t know, we had that unspoken rule in childhood that everybody hang out with their kind. And those who break it were up to some marriage jokes (marriage, yes. Innocent times). So talking to girls was alway emotionally charged, but I wouldn’t call it “interested”. My first sexual feelings for the girls was maybe at 13 or 14, I don’t remember now when exactly.
As for attempts part, I really don’t know what to say. It’s not that I actually considered going anything towards fucking somebody until late teens at least. Maybe there was general learning how to behave around girls, and I did something which you could count as “looking for attention” but it’s not like I had some clear purpose back then.
age 9
>How old were you when you started getting interested in girls?
8 or 9. Teenage Jennifer Connelly running through the rain in Labyrinth.
>What was your first attempt at female attention?
Silently staring at my middle school crush. It didn’t work.
I have been attracted to females for nearly as long as I have had consciousness. I’d say around the age of 6 maybe.
I remember being attracted to the girls on a Nickelodeon TV show that I was around 12 when I watched it.
I didn’t even try to flirt with actual.girls in middle school but I remember finding some of my classmates cute in a way I definitely didn’t find any of the boys.
I didn’t even try to flirt until I was 15.
I remember being six years old, occasionally grabbing the JCPenney catalog, hiding behind the recliner, flipping to the bra section, and just being in awe. I also remember as a child buying Britney Spears’ second CD at Kmart, coming home to my bedroom, closing the door, and gazing at her low-cut outfits in the CD pages. Weirdly, though, I realized at age 14 1/2 (the onset of puberty for me), that I was actually gay. To this day, I’m mystified as to why my orientation changed. The heart wants what it wants, I suppose.
I was a late bloomer. It wasn’t until 12 when I realized I was attracted to women, or that liking women was a natural instinct I was born with. I’ve been feral ever since lol
lol I was 20 before I actively pursued anyone
I think around 12. The first time I developed feelings for one was a bit later, maybe 15. The first time I actually asked out a woman, I was 33.
I had a female friend who would walk about with her top off with a four year old boy about, and was surprised when I mentioned that even little boy’s look. At least I did.
I don’t remember, but pretty young.
12 – used to get massive boners out of nowhere; always was terrified about being asked to stand in front of the class to read, there was a real cutey who sat in the front row – oh God i can feel the rush to this day 🤣🤦
When I was 7 or 8 I was head over heals in love with my best friends sister. Collected soda caps as it was rumored to get a certain number and she’d kiss me. Never happened. When I was 17 she hinted, flirted, and I didn’t get it. Dropped the ball.
Stupid story.
A guy in my school who somehow became friendly after bullying me 🤔 so, this guy made me notice what boobs are. And gave me some free coaching about trying my chances in flirting with the most beautiful girl of the school (you know whivh one). We were 13 😎 stupid teens. Would probably have taken me longer to realise I could have that interest without him.
Took me 4 years after that to land a 1st girlfriend because I was dealing with issues at home.
Edit: ok forgot to tell, at age 3 or 4 I had a little schoolmate who hang out with me and we said everyone we were lovers 😋 that’s the cute part. Probably my best childhood memory before everything went wrong between my parents. Don’t even remember all of it myself but they told me about it.
When I was 5 years old. I liked the Welch’s juice girl. 🤷♂️
I remember having a crush when I was 9 or 10. Later, when I was in 12, the feelings were stronger.
I grew up as a fat ugly kid so never went for female attention because I kinda accepted it. Went through a glow up as a young adult and kinda just confessed to this girl that I liked for quite some time. Ended up dating her till I got cheated on.
Kindergarten or Pre-K for sure
Interested at 5, made my first move at 9 by making her a necklace. Got a kiss on the cheek the day before moving away 🥹👍🏽
Really Young Like First or second Class.. Probably stupid stuff sadly.
my first real crush was with 10, a second one at 14 but really interested only with 17 when i randomly got my first girlfriend.
During 6th standard i suppose, i was 11 years and a few months old.
Playing doctor at four. My first crush was in kindergarten,and my first girlfriend was in grade one.
Do you know the song “Centerfold” by The J Geils Band? There’s a line in it that really hits home to a lot of guys my age that goes “Those soft, fuzzy sweaters, too magical to touch…”. The girls wore those starting in elementary school. It was a thing. I had an interest then, though I didn’t know why. I had my first “girlfriend” in the third grade. By the time I got to junior high (middle school now) I was hooked.
I was a milfhunter since 5 years of age. Liked only girls 10+ years older, curves and shit just drove me
First grade. A girl I had the biggest crush on came over and asked me for a pencil. Out of 30 kids in class, she chose me. My 6-year-old brain thought that was basically a marriage proposal. I gave her the pencil and sat there smiling like I’d just won at life.
…She never gave it back. Technically, I think I’m still waiting on the divorce papers.
I remember getting my first kiss on the cheek in kindergarten (4-5) by a girl I considered really pretty at the time. Her mom was also gorgeous too (her mom had like really light eyes and pretty face)
Ever since then, I liked girls. Then, I was cursed with the Ugly and haven’t been happy since.
Kindergarten.
I’ve always been drawn to female attention, never really did th ef cooties thing (Only times I did it wer to annoy some of them), but the first time I actually noticed liking a girl was at 6 years old in first grade, she was a cute blonde with a beauty mark. (And 20+ years later, she still ain’t doing bad)
Never tried to actively gain attention from girls/women though, because none of them showed even the slightest modicum of interest.
Play-acted at adult stuff all through childhood and teens, played doctor with the neighbour girls as a kid, had some bad sex in my teens, but don’t think I was actually interested meaningfully until late-20’s. Think it was a combination of those layers of emotional complexity taking a long time to develop for me… and honestly just not meeting any interesting women.