Hi everybody,
So im with my (27) boyfriend (25)nearly 6 years. So there is a situation.
when we were 3 years old, he cheated on me with a girl several times , it turned out then and we are still together and I am trying / tried to process it, but unfortunately I feel like it’s not working. I broke up with him and he doesn’t fully understand my problem. He is sorry and regrets it and I know it wouldn’t happen again, but for some reason even after three years I can’t let this go. I don’t know what advice I would like, I just don’t know if I made the right decision by breaking up or not. Can cheating be forgiven or not? then I felt like I would be able to let go and forgive him, but after all this time it still consumes me..
We lived together, he moved out and I told him I wanted to be alone and not talk, but he doesn’t respect me and is constantly looking for me, which does not help..
Thank you if you can comment on this.
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Hard truth: if it still eats you after 3 years, cheating is a dealbreaker for you. That’s valid.
Forgiveness and reconciliation are separate. You can forgive and still not stay.
He is ignoring your no contact. That shows you why leaving is right.
Close it clean: one final no contact message, block everywhere, return items through a friend, therapy if you can.
Ask yourself: do you want your 20s managing triggers, or building trust with someone new? Choose peace.
PLEASE REPORT TEHSE SITPOSTS.
What repair work did he do for the relationship?
Dear ex ” please stop trying to make contact. I don’t not want to be in a relationship with you. Not now, not ever. So just stop.”
He betrayed your trust. You can forgive him yet still not have what you used to. And you deserve that. You are young. Find someone who wouldn’t think twice about hurting you. I wasted too much time on someone like this. I couldn’t get past it and finally broke it off. He got married 3 months later and surprise surprise within a year he was cheating on her.
Sounds like the cheating was a deal breaker for you, but you still wanted for some reason to give him that chance. It’s not a bad thing to end a relationship because of cheating. He stepped out and did that so your well within your rights not to forgive him.
I think in the future if there is another relationship I would not stay and allow them to try and work it out. Take that as your hard line and leave it at that.
I hope whatever you choose you get to a point where your happy 👍