Hi ladies, I’m feeling a bit confused if this is what adult female friendships look like?

So, I’ve been friends with my childhood bestie for years, we’ve had sleepovers, deep chats, and tons of memories. But lately, I’ve been noticing some patterns that are really bothering me, and I can’t tell if I’m overthinking or if this is just how some friendships evolve.

She identifies as an introvert and rarely initiates messages or calls, unless she needs a favor, usually money, or if she’s really bored. But here’s the confusing part: she does actively hang out and keep in touch with her other friends.

I even told her once that I’m more of a call person, like I actually enjoy connecting that way, but nothing really changed.

When I brought up that we don’t really hang out much anymore, she said it’s because I work on weekdays and she only meets people during weekdays, never weekends. But at that time, she wasn’t even working. So that felt off to me, like an excuse?

Another thing I’ve noticed is that whenever she’s in a relationship, I kind of disappear from her life completely. No texts, no calls, not even casual check-ins, it’s like I don’t exist in that phase of her life. Then, once the relationship ends, she slowly comes back again. Recently, she made her new relationship public on social media, and I didn’t know a single thing about it. And this is someone I was having sleepovers with just two months ago.

Whenever we do meet, everything feels normal. No tension, no weirdness. But somewhere deep down, I feel sidelined, like I’m on standby. And I don’t know if this is what adult female friendships are like… or if I’m being taken for granted.

Would love to hear some honest thoughts from those who’ve been through something similar.