To start, this is all a fairly new “relationship”, but has anyone ever actually stopped talking to someone because of their feet smelling THAT bad?
I’ve mentioned it before and it’s a touchy subject.
I’ve even suggested something to take internally thats a body deodorant (dont know if it would actually work)
The thing is too is that he won’t take his shoes off when he comes to my house and it makes me so mad.
I dont want people walking around in their nasty shoes. I know some people dont mind that but I do. He says it will just get even worse but it makes my ENTIRE HOUSE smell with his shoes on.
I’m not trying to be mean, but I am always taken over by the smell and it’s become a huge turn off. and the last time I said something he was like “there’s no way because these are my good shoes”
What else am i supposed to say
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You’re not being mean hygiene matters, and your home should be a space where you feel comfortable. If he can’t respect your boundaries and won’t take feedback seriously, that’s a real issue, even early on.
So, my roommate broke up with her ex-bf because of bad hygiene (and other things), but she told me that she discovered that he would re-wear his smelly gym socks for days at a time even after showering and she couldn’t figure out why his feet were so rancid smelling. I’m not sure what is causing your bf’s smelly problem- do his feet smell when the shoes are off too? It’s kind of sounding like the relationship is new enough to just end it. Especially if he won’t accommodate your request to not wear his shoes indoors.
Can he like wash his feet everyday or at least every other day. Wearing shoes and socks everyday just makes it exponentially worse
Reddit advice: break up with him girl you can do better.
My advice being married ten years: Buy him new socks, wash his socks, go shoe shopping with him, schedule him a podiatrist appointment because he may have athletes feet, buy him this spray that is a dry powder to keep his feet dry
We are codependent so take my advice with a grain of salt but damn sometimes people just need help getting out of a bad place
Tell him. Could also be hyperhidrosis. & if he’s only ever known that smell he wouldn’t recognize it as his own. Not sure if he wears dress shoes or work boots but those puppies need to air out after work
Have him go to a dermatologist
I’d break up. How’re you supposed to feel attracted while experiencing that?
He’s not taking his shoes off at your place BECAUSE he knows his feet smell bad. And he is trying not make your place stink.
This may be because of his work( certain footwear required), or he has cheap shoes that don’t breathe and trap moisture and funk. Or he only has one pair of those work shoes and can’t rotate them so they can air out.
How about you talk to him instead of condemning him? Give him a medicated foot soak. Suggest that he gets some new insoles for his shoes.
Give him some solutions.
They literally make both foot and shoe deodorizer spray. Has that not been explored?
If he hasn’t figured that out, he’s probably rewearing socks for days, too.
Apparently he’s okay with being disgustingly malordorous, and thinks you should be okay with it too.
He is not willing to do anything to change. Stop trying to convince him to do something he does not want to do.
You are making yourself crazy trying to understand why ANYBODY would be okay stinking the way he does, and why they would not want to stop smelling like an open drain.
There isn’t any logical answer to why he doesn’t think it’s worth trying not to smell terrible.
Break up and move on. Or buy a gas mask.
I already know his doodoo ass wears the same pair of socks for 7 days straight before he puts on new ones 😭 and if he’s wearing his shoes indoors even if you tell him not to, that’s a no for me personally
Buy new shoes and socks, and wash his feet every day. If that doesn’t work, dump him.
Stinky feet are usually only the tip of the iceberg…
Break up immediately. Dear lord there are plenty of non stinky men to date instead
This is fucking disgusting. He knows his feet smell, he won’t take his shoes off at your place otherwise the smell will get worse, and he’s a whole ass grown damn man that refuses to fix his problem.
Yes, dump him and move on. Who the hell has the time to deal with all this?? All these men out there that take good care of themselves and have great hygiene and this is the man that you want?
No way…leave.
Likely rewearing old smelly socks, barefoot in shoes or a combination. Once the shoes smells it a wrap, throw them out. Needs new shoes, plenty of socks so he never has to rewear and needs to thoroughly wash feet daily. Also if shoes get wet they need to be dried quickly. Stand them up against the base of a wall and face a small fan at them.
Signed soccer player who has to deal with smelly shoes and has learned how to manage.
Did you not know this when you started dating him?
“GOOD-BYE” ?
hygiene is a huge deal breaker for me, i’m a germaphobe haha…
What you’re saying is absolutely fair. He may be happy to live with it but it doesn’t mean you should. Hygiene is hugely important especially in intimate relationships.
He needs to see a doctor; it could be a condition that is easily treated. I get it’s probably embarrassing for him but I’d be more embarrassed if I had to tell people my girlfriend left me because my feet stink and I wouldn’t do anything about it
Girl I’ve still talked to someone because they said one stupid thing at the wrong time. There’s no right or wrong reason to dump someone. I personally would be so turned off the lack of care and attention to hygiene that I wouldn’t let him near my parts. But you do you. He’s clearly not washing his feet or socks, or he has a medical issue that he needs to get looked at. Hygiene IS health, first and foremost.
Years ago, in my 20s, I bought a cheap pair of shoes from K-Mart, I think it was, and those were the smelliest shoes EVER! Now I did and do live in the mid-south in Tennessee, and it gets ungodly HOT here in the summer (temps 95 and up EVERY.SINGLE.DAY!!) I got them wet once and they were never the same after that. I always wore knee-high hose with them, but that just transferred the smell to the hose! I learned to leave that pair of shoes either outside on the porch or somewhere in the house all by themselves after putting them in a closet I shared with my husband and ALL our clothes smelled like those shoes after a couple of days. When I wasn’t wearing those shoes, I always had them stuffed with newspaper or some product that was “guaranteed” to destroy the odor. One day at work, I leaned down and reached under my desk to unplug a cord, and the smell under my desk was so disgusting I thought I’d throw up! I tried all sorts of foot powders and sprays to get rid of that odor, all to no avail. I bathed every single day and paid special attention to my feet, using special soaps, etc., but nothing helped. I did notice, however, that my feet didn’t stink in other shoes, and, interestingly, they didn’t stink in an identical pair of shoes made by the same manufacturer but in a different color. There was something in that particular pair of shoes that smelled bad!!
OP, do his feet smell bad in every pair of shoes or just one particular pair?
I couldn’t be intimate with someone who stinks. Major turn off. An adult with a serious hygiene issue is a red flag to me.
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It’s not about the odor.
If you’re giving feedback on something that he totally has the power to easily change and he’s not eager to fix it this early on… well… that’s probably going to happen in other places down the road. And it won’t be for stuff that’s as easy to fix as stinky feet.