There is no good deed, and I mean no good deed, that goes unpunished. But this story isn’t just about a good deed backfiring. This is about a woman who, in a literal post-hurricane disaster zone, offered a lifeline to a friend… and that friend proceeded to try and sink her entire boat.
Our narrator is a 30-something single mom living in Jamaica. After a recent hurricane, her community has no electricity. But she, being an absolute boss and a certified genius, works remotely and had already invested in a solar system. She has power. She is the queen of the block.
Her friend, a man her age, also works remotely. But he does not have power. He has a generator, but he figured it would be “better/cheaper” to just… work from her home. He wanted to mooch off her apocalypse-prep. She, being a good person, agreed, but warned him she’s a single mom in a small house and “can’t accommodate him long term.” He said that was fine.
It was not fine.
The entitlement started on Day One. He came over and immediately started drinking her water. In a post-hurricane situation, water is not a given. She had to tell this grown man to bring his own water because it’s “somewhat short.” Then, he used the toilet… and just left it. Because there’s no running water, she had to point to the bucket next to the toilet and explain that he, a grown man, has to flush his own sh!t.


But wait. It gets so, so much worse.
The next day was overcast. Anyone with half a brain knows what this means for solar power: no sun, no power. She told him this. She explained that the panels weren’t pulling much energy.
And what did this absolute genius do? He “proceeded to charge all his devices (multiple) and used the microwave.” A f*cking microwave. The single most energy-sucking appliance known to man. Our narrator, a saint, a queen, a woman who deserves a medal, didn’t even complain.
This brings us to Day Three. The day of the reckoning. Our narrator realized the meat in her freezer was soft. It was thawing. Why? Because her “friend” had unplugged her freezer to plug in his devices.
I need you to understand this. This is Jamaica. After a hurricane. There is no power. This woman, a single mom, has a freezer full of food she has no way of replacing. She’s “cautious about people selling spoiled meat,” which means this is her family’s food supply. And this man, this resource-sucking vampire, unplugged it. He was about to ruin all her food, endanger her and her child, all so he could… what? Answer some work emails?
So she, a hero of restraint, didn’t even yell. She just calmly informed him that Friday was his last day and he could “not come back here to work.”
And his reaction? Is he horrified? Is he apologetic? Is he on his knees, begging for forgiveness and offering to buy her a new cow? Of course not. He got on the phone, in her house, and started “sulking” and complaining to someone else that he “doesn’t know what hes going to do.”
He’s… sulking. Because he’s being evicted from the home he almost starved.
So, AITA? Is she the ahole for telling this man he can’t work here? Let me be as clear as humanly possible: N-T-A. You are not the ahole. You are a saint for not throwing him, his laptop, and his multiple devices out onto the street the second you saw that soft meat.
Absolutely not the a-hole. This “friend” is not behaving as a friend should as he is taking advantage of you and not respecting your wishes and boundaries. He is using you and doing the exact opposite of what you requested. I applaud you for standing up for yourself and putting an end to this. Your “friend” can figure out something else. He must. I do not intend to be an a-hole myself but it is really not your problem. His continued consumption of your limited water and electricity is preventing you from having what is needed for you and your child. Not to mention he almost ruined your freezer full of food. He seems to have a very entitled attitude and was making his “I don’t know what I’ll do” calls in your presence in attempts to guilt-trip you into letting him continue to use your limited and thus precious resources at no cost to himself. You are definitely not the a-hole but this “friend” most certainly is.