This Husband Demanded His Med Student Brother Be in the Delivery Room as His Support Person, and I Am Screaming

There are certain, sacred spaces in this world. A confessional. A secret, underground bunker. And at the absolute top of that list, the delivery room. It is a medical, vulnerable, and deeply personal space. It is not a field trip, it is not a spectator sport, and it is not a classroom.

One 21-year-old husband on Reddit, however, seems to have missed that memo entirely. And he’s now in a “huge argument” because his wife is refusing to turn her “pleasant birth” into a f*cking learning annex.

Our narrator is 21 years old and 31 weeks pregnant. With twins. She’s already had a “pretty rough pregnancy,” and she is just, understandably, hoping for a smooth delivery. She and her husband have been together forever, so his family is her family. This includes his 24-year-old brother, a medical student.

Because she’s pregnant with multiples, the brother-in-law (BIL) has taken a “lot of interest” in her pregnancy. Sounds fine, right? A little weird, maybe, but he’s a med student.

And then, the husband drops the bomb. He tells his wife that his brother “had expressed an interest in being there whilst I gave birth.”

I’m sorry. He what? His “reasoning”? It would be “beneficial from an educational standpoint to see a natural multiples birth.”

I am… I am unwell. This man, this brother-in-law, is asking for a front-row ticket to his sister-in-law’s delivery… for school. Her body, her medical event, her “rough pregnancy”… is just “content” for his degree. The audacity is breathtaking.

Our hero, a queen, a legend, gave the only acceptable answer: “absolutely not, there is no way in h*ll I am allowing that.” She even admits she’s “not even overly keen on allowing my husband” to be there, let alone his looky-loo brother. She, rightly, said her “pleasant birth was my priority.”

But this is where the story goes from “clueless brother-in-law” to “your husband is the ahole.”

Her husband got defensive. And he gave his real reason. He said he should be “allowed to have a support person too,” just like she’ll have her mom.

I need you to read that again. The 21-year-old man who is supposed to be the support person… is demanding his own support person. For what? For the trauma of holding a hand and saying “you’re doing great, honey”?

Sir. You are not the patient. You are not the one about to push two (2) human beings out of your body. Your only job in that room is to support her. You are her support person. You don’t get a support person. That’s not how this works.

He’s equating her, the person in labor, having her mother (a woman who has actually given birth and can offer real, empathetic support) to him, the spectator, having his brother (a curious student who wants to watch the “show”). These are not the same thing.

And then he had the sheer, unmitigated gall to say “it was just as much his right as it was mine to have someone there to support him.” A man has zero “rights” to who gets to be in a delivery room when his wife is the patient. None. Zip. Zilch.

This isn’t about “rights.” This is about her medical privacy and her comfort. This is about her, a 21-year-old in a high-risk pregnancy, having to manage the emotional tantrum of her 21-year-old husband who is treating her delivery like his own personal Super Bowl party.

He’s now “dragged” his mom and brother into it, which means he couldn’t handle “no” and ran straight to mommy.

So, AITA? Absolutely not. N-T-A. You are not the ahole. You are a pregnant woman who is being forced to set a boundary that should have been common f*cking sense.