We all love a good game night. Pictionary, Monopoly, maybe even a spicy round of Truth or Dare if you are feeling adventurous. But there is a very thick, bold line between “fun couple activities” and “literal fraud.” One woman on Reddit just shared a story that sounds less like a relationship hurdle and more like the opening scene of a Dateline episode, and frankly, my blood runs cold just thinking about it.
The Original Poster (OP) explains that she recently got out of the hospital after dealing with chronic health issues. Recovery is tough, and you rely heavily on your partner during those times. To keep things light, her husband started introducing evening games. At first, it was innocent stuff—doing puzzles or solving a Rubik’s cube while blindfolded. It sounds a bit odd, but hey, maybe he’s just really into sensory deprivation challenges?
But then the “game” took a sharp left turn into legal territory. At one point, the husband tried to get her to sign papers while wearing the blindfold. His excuse? He wanted to see if she could “leave the same signature every time.” Sir, you can test that on a napkin. You can test that on a scrap piece of mail. You do not test that on mystery documents that you refuse to show your wife.
The biggest red flag here isn’t even the blindfold; it’s the secrecy. The OP explicitly stated that he refuses to let her look at what she is signing, neither before nor after the pen hits the paper. That is not a game. That is how you end up accidentally selling your kidney, signing over power of attorney, or taking on massive debt without knowing it. When she refused, he dropped it… temporarily.
He tried again last night, even offering to “go first” to make it seem fair. But when she asked again if she could see the papers, he made a face and said no because “it’s the rules.” The OP stood her ground, and that is when the manipulation started. He accused her of being suspicious for no reason and played the ultimate guilt card: “I’m hurt you don’t trust me after everything we’ve been through.”
This is textbook emotional manipulation. He is using the fact that he supported her through her illness as a weapon to force her compliance. He is essentially saying, “I took care of you when you were sick, so now you owe me a blind signature on this contract.” It is predatory, it is scary, and the OP is right to be paranoid.
Let’s be clear: refusing to sign a mystery contract is not a lack of trust; it is a presence of brain cells. This man is gaslighting her by making her feel guilty for having basic survival instincts. If the papers were innocent—like a cute anniversary card or a fun drawing—he would have shown her afterwards. The fact that he is angry she won’t sign blindly proves that whatever is on that page is something she would never agree to with her eyes open.
So, is she the ahole? Absolutely not. NTA. If your spouse asks you to sign something blindfolded and gets angry when you ask to read it, you don’t need a pen; you need a lawyer. This isn’t a game, OP. This is a trap. Do not sign anything, and maybe check your credit report while you are at it.
How much does OP love him because he has a lot of growing up to do. Do they have children? Now we need counseling! This is very serious and he doesn’t want to deal with it. If he doesn’t deal, she has to leave him now while she is still young.
If his thing is really to see if you sign the same each time, there’s no reason for you not to see what you’re signing. He’s up to something.