This Husband Forced His Wife Into a Terrifying Home Birth Against Her Will and the Internet is Screaming Divorce

Giving birth is arguably the most vulnerable and terrifying medical experience a human being can go through. You absolutely need a supportive partner by your side to advocate for your safety and comfort. But what happens when the person who is supposed to protect you actually becomes your biggest threat? One new mother on Reddit recently shared a horrifying birth story that has the entire internet screaming at her to pack her bags and call a divorce lawyer immediately.

The Original Poster is a new mom whose daughter is now eight weeks old. Since the day she gave birth, she and her husband have been locked in a massive grudge match. To understand how they got here, we have to rewind to the very beginning of her pregnancy. When the OP first found out she was expecting, her husband immediately started demanding that she have a home birth.

At just six weeks pregnant, the OP understandably brushed off his intense demands because the actual delivery felt so far away. But the husband did not drop the subject. In fact, his behavior escalated to a deeply controlling level. Whenever they went to her obstetrician appointments, the husband would literally speak over his wife. When the medical professional asked the actual patient about her birth plan, the husband would interrupt and answer for her.

Things got even worse when the mother in law decided to get involved. The husband’s mother sat the OP down and listed all the reasons why they did not want her going to a hospital. Notice the use of the word they. The husband and his mother formed a united front to dictate what a grown woman did with her own body. When the OP expressed very valid concerns about her safety and the baby’s safety, the mother in law completely brushed her off.

By the time she reached thirty six weeks, the OP finally put her foot down. She explicitly told her husband that she did not want a home birth and would drive herself to the hospital when the time came. He acted like he did not even hear her speak. Instead, they met with a doula who was incredibly pushy, leaving the OP feeling completely overwhelmed and entirely unsupported in her own marriage.

Then the absolute nightmare scenario happened. At thirty nine weeks, the OP went into labor. She begged her husband to take her to the hospital where her trusted doctor was waiting. She absolutely pleaded with him. Instead of listening to his terrified wife, he refused. He spoke to her condescendingly and called the pushy doula instead. He essentially held her hostage in her own home during a major medical event.

The OP was in labor for three agonizing days. She endured active labor for around twenty two hours. She cried the entire time because she knew deep down that something was wrong. She was absolutely terrified, and yet her husband and the doula frequently left her completely alone in the room. The doula coldly informed her that they would only go to the hospital if active pushing reached the twenty four hour mark.

The trauma of the experience completely robbed her of those magical first moments of motherhood. When the baby was finally born, the OP was so exhausted and traumatized that she did not even want to hold her daughter. She just cried out of pure relief that the torture was finally over. When she finally saw her actual doctor for a postpartum checkup, the physician was shocked and highly concerned that she had delivered at home.

Now that they are on the other side of the birth, the OP has repeatedly told her husband that he absolutely ruined the experience for her. She told him it was horrible and entirely his fault. Instead of falling to his knees and begging for forgiveness, this man actually rolls his eyes at her. He lectures her about how mothers are supposed to be strong and accuses her of not trying hard enough.

The most chilling part of this entire story is his response to their future plans. The husband wants another baby. The OP firmly stated that if they ever have another child, she will never do a home birth again. His response was a sinister remark saying they will see. He has absolutely zero remorse for traumatizing his wife and fully intends to force her into the exact same situation again.

The internet is absolutely horrified by this story. The OP is definitely not the ahole. What her husband did was not just stubborn, it was medical coercion and abuse. He denied her medical care when she was begging for it. This is not normal behavior, and the OP needs to take her beautiful new baby and run far away from this incredibly dangerous man. What would you do if your partner refused to take you to the hospital? Let us know in the comments below!