So as the title says I hooked up with my ex. I don’t regret it because I still have feelings for her. Those have been long gone. I still find her attractive but I guess physical attraction is not enough for me to sleep with someone I guess. Like it felt weird and gross. The fact that we did that to each other and then went back to making small talk felt weird. It felt pointless and kind of gross. I just don’t know what to do now really. I feel like I’m in a whole different headspace now.
Hooked up with ex and regret it
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Yeah, it’s really never a good idea. We all do it, it always ends the same.
I think sometimes it’s a sense of familiarity and it makes it easier to happen and bring up a whole host of feelings. The fact you feel weirded out now is what shows it wasn’t right to happen. Set boundaries so you can prevent it from happening again and be open with them
First decide mentally what do you want and discuss it afterwards with her. It’s better to hit the nail on the head rather than beat around the bush. Ask yourself if you want them in your life and in what capacity and try creating a boundary. Easier said than done !
why don’t you guys remain friends and transition onto more of a fwb dynamic. no need to revert to small talk– i’m sure you guys know each other well enough, now.
I slept with an ex after another break-up as a rebound. It was gross. It was nothing like I remembered and she is nothing like she was when we were together. Maybe gross isn’t the right word but I was wildy uncomfortable the whole time and there’s a reason I haven’t seen her since. Now when I slept with the ex that I still was in love with years before that.. THAT was great. Just a shame it was the last time.
Just do it already…
Congratulations you have found out what post nut clarity means
Hope it was good closure for both of you
My gf & I broke up a few days ago because she wasn’t mentally ready yet to be in a relationship like she thought she was. I promised myself to never hook back up with an ex for reasons just like this. It never ends well for those that do. It’s just too overwhelming. Give yourself time to heal!!
Live and learn.
Don’t beat yourself up for it. Move on, having learned a valuable lesson.