So about 6 months ago my best friend hooked up with this guy she had on snap. They only had sex once but snapped for a couple weeks before and after. One night I was in one of the snaps/conversations and he said he wanted me instead of her. We just laughed it off and we both agreed he was an asshole, but just a classic guy thing to say. This happened a couple more times where he would ask her for my snap or whatever. I didn’t know anything about him and just let it be- eventually they stopped snapping and never talked about it again. They were both only looking for a hook up so it was just one of those things that fizzled out.
Fast forward to a couple weeks ago.. a guy adds me on snap and I thought the name looked familiar so I added him back. We had a conversation and I was like wow this guy is really attractive and I like his personality. Once the initial convo was over he asked if I remembered who he was. I said no. He told me he was the guy that hooked up with my friend and that he always just wanted to hook up with me instead. At this point I entertained the conversation but rejected him kindly. I told him I just wouldn’t cross that boundary and it is weird to me to have sex with the same person as my close friend.
He was quite persistent and would text me here and there asking if I changed my mind. On a very horny and lonesome night I decided to go over to his place. We hooked up and I spent the night. Putting everything aside it was a great night and we clicked well. The next day I felt super guilty and just told myself I was gonna forget about it. I didn’t talk to him for a couple weeks.
Well, then this past weekend he texted me again. It had been awhile since I had sex and I knew he was good.. so ya I went over again.
If it isn’t already terrible enough, I know I would do it again. To make matters somewhat better this friend has a boyfriend now and has never brought this guy up in a reminiscent way or anything. It’s not like they had a romantic aspect or a falling out.
So I guess with all of this I just don’t know how to feel. I have no idea how she would react. Even if she isn’t mad about it being him specifically, I think it’s more so the idea that she has had sex with him too so it just makes it weird. And the fact that I have lied/kept it a secret for over a month or two now. I think she would look at me differently and lose some respect.
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It’s only weird if you make it weird. Just because your friend hooked up with someone, doesn’t mean that person is automatically out of bounds. It’s not as if it’s her husband or BF. If you feel guilt about it, just bring it up to your friend and be like “Hey, I feel really bad about something, and I need to get it off my chest…” and just casually tell her. If you apologize or make a big deal out of it then it will become a big deal. Just let her know that because she’s your friend and you respect her, that you wanted to get it off your chest. That’s all.
I mean, I know there is the rule “dont touch others exes” but he wasnt your friends ex, right? Just a hook up? And she didnt have any feelings towards him? If these are the factors, I myself in your friends shoes would realize that I dont mark anyone other than with relationship status or with a ring. I might be odd but I would just be like “okay, was he like this? Cause he did this thing with me etc. :D”
But if there are emotions involved, then the case is much trickier and easily turning into wrong direction. Otherwise, I wouldnt think too much about it.
People not scared of STD’s anymore?
I think you feel bad because you know you knew full well that you were pushing a boundary (of either yours or her’s)
The truly honourable thing to do would have been to ask your friend for a pass before going over the first time.
At the end of the day your friend cant help it, she would be an idiot not to lose some respect for you. Think about it from her point of view. What if her current partner decided he wanted to fuck you? Then she has to question, it just a matter of time before you would let him get off in your body rather than hers?
Yes the sex is good, its naughty. Sex is always good when you are losing control for it.
Props to the guy though he is the real winner here.
The best thing you can do for your own interests is not tell her and keep fucking him. If he becomes a relationship then be aware is 90% chance it’s a training relationship, which is where you learn about yourself and what you want, dont want, in yourself or a future partner.
It’s not weird the way you put it’s just fun but I’d say something to her
I wouldn’t want to share a penis that’s been inside my friend but that’s just me. You can’t feel that guilty if you keep going back to him so just be honest, she might not even care.