Hello! I don’t know how to bring this stuff up with my boyfriend and I feel stuck in this situation. He does not like that I don’t bring these kind of things immediately, so I’m more anxious to talk about this. My boyfriend (M26) treats me like a princess for couple of days and then it’s like I’m just one of his friends for the next days. I think what finally crossed the line was what happened yesterday.
He has been sick and asked me to play videogames together and I was super excited. When I got there he was doing his own things and didn’t ask me anything or didn’t even greet me in anyway. Usually he kisses me right away but this time, nothing. Suddenly he needed to go to the market and on the walk to his car he met his girl best friend (yup..) and asked if she needed anything from the store or wanted to come with us, which I find kind of disrespectful not asking me first if I want her with us. His girl best friend is a whole another story too.
On the drive he did notice I was annoyed and he put his hand on my thighs and I just felt, disgusted? When we got back to his place the same things continued for hours, he just did his own things not even talking to me. He was happy and he wasn’t mad or annoyed to me in anyway that could’ve explained this behaviour.
He did ask me (in a disparagingly way) if I were annoyed at him and I didn’t want to say anything, I just said that I need to leave in half an hour. Only then he started to kiss me and touch me but I didn’t want to do anything with him at all. In conclusion I just watched him do his own things for many hours, no videogames played. He did say that ”glad you visited” when I left.
I am fine with hanging out doing our own things but I was promised time together and I didn’t have anything to do but just lay on the sofa and watch him do his own things.
I have explained my feelings very summarized, so do ask clarifying questions if needed. I just feel like my time wasn’t valued and I feel like I didn’t get any attention, which hurts my feelings. I know that if I bring this up today he gets mad for not saying anything yesterday. I’m scared the situation gets worse cause we both are going to this one huge get together cabin this weekend. I have my own friend group to go there with and he has his own, but he said a week ago that ”heads up that I am not going to hang out with you too much cause I don’t see my boys too often and I get to hang out with you whenever” which also feels weird thing to say.
TLDR; I get hot n cold treatment from my boyfriend and I don’t know how to bring this up