He was my boyfriend’s nephew (only 2 years older than him,) and it made my heart sink. He was sweet but not my type and I was in a relationship. I felt awful. I knew he was very sweet and I hated letting him down.
I had a friend tell me he was in love with me mid-convo. I vomited.
Wasn’t trying to be rude, but emotions go straight to my stomach and that was an instant stressful surprise
This happened to me multiple times throughout my life and it eventually if not immediately ruined every friendship, not because I wanted it to. It made me extremely weary to this day to have any kind of close friendship with men that aren’t my family. It makes me mad every time I think about it honestly.
The friend who told me . I’m sorry to say because he was very sweet. But he was annoying BECAUSE he liked me. When you like someone and they don’t give you attention because they do not like you back you do stuff to get their attention which becomes annoying. I felt so bad but I had to ghost
One time it was a guy and I saw it coming, and had avoided this conversation in every way possible that wasn’t straight up, “This isn’t gonna happen, so don’t even start.” He was my closest male friend ever, and he was engaged to be married, but got cold feet or something, so he tried to escape by leapfrogging to me. It wasn’t entirely the reason, I am sure, because we had a way of understanding each other and shared experiences that I never found again, even in my husband. But our circumstances made it impossible for me to give him a chance, I also didn’t find him physically attractive then. It made me feel sad and sorry, because I liked him so much and didn’t want to hurt him with my rejection. I miss that friendship a lot, even though we still talk at times, it’s not the same at all.
And the other time it was a girl, right before my own wedding. I also felt sad and sorry, because I liked her a lot and wanted her to be happy. But I was engaged and am also pretty much straight. Sadly that friendship disappeared after this tearful encounter.
Mostly didn’t go well and they tried to guilt me into reciprocating.
One just nodded and accepted it. We’re still great friends and his partner was my bridesmaid.
I will not fault someone for liking me. The thing is, I dont engage in casuals. So you must have been a really close and valued friend to get to know me, enough to like me. So if you stop being friends with me (different from distancing yourself to let off steam), I will assume I was in the fuckzone from the start— that you never cared about me as a separate person, just someone you assumed will be yours eventually. I consider that betrayal and disrespect and I feel like a piece of meat
It’s ruined every male friendship I have. I wouldn’t even consider myself that attractive- but because i listen to them and offer them platonic emotional companionship, a place to talk and be vulnerable, I think they take that kindness the wrong way and automatically think “she’s the one”. It’s incredibly frustrating.
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He basically said if we can’t be together he can’t see me anymore and thus I never hung out with him again
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He was my boyfriend’s nephew (only 2 years older than him,) and it made my heart sink. He was sweet but not my type and I was in a relationship. I felt awful. I knew he was very sweet and I hated letting him down.
I had a friend tell me he was in love with me mid-convo. I vomited.
Wasn’t trying to be rude, but emotions go straight to my stomach and that was an instant stressful surprise
This happened to me multiple times throughout my life and it eventually if not immediately ruined every friendship, not because I wanted it to. It made me extremely weary to this day to have any kind of close friendship with men that aren’t my family. It makes me mad every time I think about it honestly.
The friend who told me . I’m sorry to say because he was very sweet. But he was annoying BECAUSE he liked me. When you like someone and they don’t give you attention because they do not like you back you do stuff to get their attention which becomes annoying. I felt so bad but I had to ghost
If it happened again I’d deal with it better
He stopped talking to me when I turned him down.
This is why I have no male friends. 🫠
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It was weird at first. Then we gave it a go and realized that we are highly incompatible. We did go on for three and a half years though.
One time it was a guy and I saw it coming, and had avoided this conversation in every way possible that wasn’t straight up, “This isn’t gonna happen, so don’t even start.” He was my closest male friend ever, and he was engaged to be married, but got cold feet or something, so he tried to escape by leapfrogging to me. It wasn’t entirely the reason, I am sure, because we had a way of understanding each other and shared experiences that I never found again, even in my husband. But our circumstances made it impossible for me to give him a chance, I also didn’t find him physically attractive then. It made me feel sad and sorry, because I liked him so much and didn’t want to hurt him with my rejection. I miss that friendship a lot, even though we still talk at times, it’s not the same at all.
And the other time it was a girl, right before my own wedding. I also felt sad and sorry, because I liked her a lot and wanted her to be happy. But I was engaged and am also pretty much straight. Sadly that friendship disappeared after this tearful encounter.
Mostly didn’t go well and they tried to guilt me into reciprocating.
One just nodded and accepted it. We’re still great friends and his partner was my bridesmaid.
I will not fault someone for liking me. The thing is, I dont engage in casuals. So you must have been a really close and valued friend to get to know me, enough to like me. So if you stop being friends with me (different from distancing yourself to let off steam), I will assume I was in the fuckzone from the start— that you never cared about me as a separate person, just someone you assumed will be yours eventually. I consider that betrayal and disrespect and I feel like a piece of meat
It’s ruined every male friendship I have. I wouldn’t even consider myself that attractive- but because i listen to them and offer them platonic emotional companionship, a place to talk and be vulnerable, I think they take that kindness the wrong way and automatically think “she’s the one”. It’s incredibly frustrating.