I’m about to turn 16 and like most people my age in school. “Gooning” is thought of as light harded. I’m to afraid to ask somone like my perents (both Nigerian) are extremely against porn or me Interacting with the female (for now) gender unsupervised
Anyway I got side tract
I also don’t wanna tell my friends because they either might be disgusted that I do so or clown the shit outta me cus I feel shy about (they seem like ashole’s but they arnt)
I only mastubate about 2-4 times a day. I I have other hobbies so I’m not a full “goner yet” I am slightly ashamed of doing this so this is my last resort
Is it ok as long as I’m not OVERLY doing it?
EDIT: 2-4 A WEEK NOT DAY WEEK
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Gonna go blind and grow hair on your palms! Kidding. Be discrete and don’t leave messes.
ITS SO HEALTHY
As with everything, it’s healthy, natural, and normal in moderation.
Problems arise when people become addicted to porn. Porn is not a realistic representation of typical human sexuality and can cause misunderstandings for young men and women who are learning about sex through porn and not from the proper resources. It can cause unrealistic and unhealthy expectations from oneself or from one’s partner, can cause body appearance issues, and general self esteem problems.
In moderation though, it is perfectly natural and healthy to explore one’s own sexuality, there is nothing sinful or wrong about the human body and all its pieces.
Masturbation is healthy but its identical twin Porn addiction is terrible
Totally normal. Don’t be ashamed. Be safe. The porn though, it’s not real and really should be avoided. Use your imagination instead.
2-4 times a day is a lot but I guess no surprise from a teenage boy! It’s not wrong or bad for you, just be polite and not obvious and be clean and clean up.
I doubt that any of your friends would be disgusted they probably all have the same habits… But they would clown on you
By the way, it’s “light hearted” and “side tracked”
EDIT!!!!! 2-4 A WEEK WEEK!!!!!
Not bad at all. It’s healthy. As a teen, that’s totally within normal. And normal to not want to talk about it. And you’re spot on, if it’s not interfering with other interest or relationships, no problem.
Not bad at all. It’s healthy. As a teen, that’s totally within normal. And normal to not want to talk about it. And you’re spot on, if it’s not interfering with other interest or relationships, no problem.
Echoing what others are saying, it’s perfectly normal. It’s like taking a crap, everyone does it but you don’t talk about it because it’s TMI. However, try not to do it with porn as your brain will assume all sexual experiences should be like what you see on videos. You also might want to consider toning down the frequency as you will desensitize your penis and future human experiences may not be as pleasant.
You are a teenager. A teenager with restrictive parents. It makes it doubly confusing.
It’s hard to overstate how normal this is. This is your body. This is exploring your body and a normal step to figuring out who you are sexually. You get you A healthy step.
And even with parents who understand this is completely normal and don’t have cultural or religious issues with it? It’s still super awkward to talk about normally. My son knows I would be fine with it but it’s not like he’d ever want to discuss with me. He’s be embarrassed and mortified and he’s a couple years older than you.
I don’t think you have to be told, just have healthy boundaries about it. You do it privately unless there is consent.
But this is the most normal thing in the world and one step. If I were you, I’d look into getting a book discussing sex stuff if you don’t have a parent that understands. I got my kid a book called “It’s Perfectly Normal”. The title shows you how much kids feel weird about all this. If you are at a private/religious school, they may not have it, but you can try to find it at a public or public school library.
Here’s a post with some other books. https://ask.metafilter.com/368846/Guidance-type-books-on-sex-for-teenagers
Everything in moderation. And if you’re young and can do it, try to go without porn as much as you can. The studies say that it’s horribly addictive, toxic, and can be very bad for relationship success in the future.
It’s normal and healthy just know most porn is very fake and not representative of genuine consensual intimacy.
Masturbation is normal human behavior.
Porn is like pro wrestling or possibly the Olympics. People don’t really have sex like that the vast majority of the time, and you wouldn’t want to. It would be uncomfortable and exhausting.
If you believe porn has much to do with real sex, you’ll set yourself up for problems. Go search “porn” in the marriage subReddit. Or the “relationships” subreddit. Heck, even the AITA one.
Everything in moderation. Porn with a skeptical eye and the knowledge that all too often, the performers are being abused. Which is offputting, to say the least, in my personal opinion.
Instead, I recommend paying attention to your body and your own imagination. Way healthier.
The only reason masturbation has a cloud of gilt and its frown upon by some people is religious mithology. Try to avoid feeling gilt, it is bad for your health.
While it doesn´t stop you from living you life keep on it.