M28 trying to reduce sex drive. It’s not over the top i feel like (ideal scenario would be 3 times a week but my partner is happy with once a month). I’s making an otherwise absolutely perfect relationship very frustrating.
I’ve tried CBD, cutting out porn and avoiding ‘triggers’.
I am a very active person with a decent diet if that helps.
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Try to compromise to once a week and then jerk off as needed to satisfy yourself otherwise
Usually good diet, exercise and no porn are the recommended to increase the sex drive.
I know lots of antidepressants have a side effect of decreasing libido, but you don’t seem depressed yet.
Maybe try a time consuming hobby ?
Turn 55
Masturbate
Avoid high protein diets and supplements, also since you’re already active with a good diet, adjusting mental focus and habits may be the next step!!
Age
Opiates have been known to kill your sex drive.
SSRIs
Depression and alcoholism.
Deep breathing is the body’s natural emotional regulation. If you’re finding that your sex drive is being spurred by strong emotional urges, try some deep breathing exercises.
However, if you’re finding that moments of wanting sexual satisfaction are caused by habit (immediately seeking release) or boredom (wanting something stimulating and gratifying during extended moments of tedium), then you’ll need to find other activities to replace it.
No way without actually messing your system up… unless your testosterone levels decrease, your libido will remain the same unless other tpes of drugs are used (presrciption, not illegal)
Hit the handle every night
Unfortunately that is something g you are born with your body tells you what it needs, if your partner is unwilling Unfortunately you either have to deal with it or find a different partner.
Squat.
Historically, a particular component of gunpowder was known for its… ensoftening abilities. Once I had these submariners tell me about all the shitty things they did to each other on the boat.
And they were really shitty things, like putting Nair in a person’s shampoo to make them think they were going bald.
But the shittiest of all was the practice of sliding this stuff into a sailor’s last meal on the boat before he went back to his girl, so that he couldn’t perform.
I’m not naming it because why wouldn’t a component of rocket fuel be dangerous and cancerous? We just don’t know it yet if it’s currently not considered so.
Nevertheless I mention it because it’s the only chemical I know that actually prevents erections. It is definitely possible, but likely not safe.
Go to the gym.
Get older.
Idk if thats a question you should be asking. Lol. Most are trying to raise theirs. Love it and embrace it while you can.
Wow that’s tough dude. I masturbate twice a day every day and I have sex with my wife on average every other day.
My suggestion is to be more intimate with your partner and do things that will make her improve her sex drive to meet yours. Also, masturbate as needed 3-4 times a day. Workout, strength train, run a few miles, eat more protein, get some sunlight. Those of us with high testosterone need this to release testosterone.
Meditation.
That’s what worked for me.
Get older
Antidepressants
those things increase sex drive
try to increase your partner’s sex drive, see if that helps, think I’d go crazy at that age having sex only once a month without having any side outlet
Cut that freaking d**k !
masturbate more
There are programs available to help if it ever starts to truly affect the quality of your life
A lot of tofu
I think one of the most important things for a relationship would be to have similar sex drives.
Quit exercising and eat junk food.
well, don’t get addicted to opiates….that is NOT the route to go. idk hang out with a bunch of sweaty old men, read politics, go work at the animal shelter.
Just wack off occasionally bro. It’s not a good idea to try to artificially lower your sex drive
Take estradiol, that will kill your sex drive.
I don’t think that’s actually a thing 🤔
Three times a week seems pretty normal. Maybe you and her need to work on her pleasure so she is inclined to participate more frequently.
Dude leave the relationship this isn’t going to get better if she’s not gonna meet you halfway. Find someone with a similar libido
Watch Marjorie Taylor Greene press conferences.
Like a turtle, it’ll retreat into it’s shell.
Yea this made me sad, I’m sorry brother I have no idea how to avoid this reality.
Once a month is pretty infrequent… I would consider the conversation that your partners sex drive is more low than yours is high
Aaaand I think medications for increasing sex drive are plentiful and there are safe, reliable options.
Who knows? A little pill here and there and maybe you’re doing it 2-3x per month and it’s enough where you feel satisfied but not a massive shift for your partner
Finasteride, it will improve your hairline and lower your sex drive a bit. Seems like a win win.
This is a sign of good health. Find a hobby if you don’t have one and maybe get the partner on board with a hobby or exercising regularly and their sex drive could increase as well.
This is why god gave you hands with opposable thumbs and soft palms. I’d lose my mind if I depended on my gf to match my freak
Jerk off more. Seriously.
You do not have a perfect relationship and there is no way for you to compromise or lower yours.
You two are not sexually compatible and this is not something that will work long term.
Lucky you. My wife wants once in eternity.
Take Finasteride for your hair
A lot of seemingly innocuous meds can lower drive as can herbs, some snacks.. antidepressants are a big one, they also tend to give you more of a sweet took. Have doctor check your t score. Change of job, scenery, cliques, bars, etc. Can both raise or lower. Lots of…heheh…balls in the air!
I know I’m probably in the minority here, and you may never see this, but I’ve lived through 30 years with hugely different sex drives. Let me tell you right now: if I had to do it all over again, I would leave this relationship. It has caused us nothing but problems. Please, do yourself a favor and learn from my mistakes. The answer isn’t about changing who you are – it’s about finding someone more compatible.
Church .
Gotta be jorkin’ your peanits more
I’m assuming gooning is the answer.
Finasteride. Saving your hair will be the side bonus in this instance.
Aging.
Eat massive amounts of carbs and sugar until you get diabetes.
Have sex
Focus on your career
Im no professional but “Sex drive” is a mind thing. I’ve went months without doing anything just to see if there was any difference and tbh I don’t see why you would, there is literally no benefit. As far as your relationship goes, sounds more like your partner doesn’t want to fuck you, and your relationship might not be as “perfect” as you think it is. If you want to “lower your sex drive” just stop having sex or being sexual in general, it’s really not that complicated & could potentially even be why your partner doesn’t want to have sex with you 💀
Try turning your partner on. Men are very one tract. Women take seducing, you can’t stop dating ever. Take her to dinner buy her flowers give her a massage on a freshly made bed.
Self-mortification will not solve the problem of unmatched sex drive with your partner. When there’s such a difference, relationships must end or change fundamentally.
Sex/couples therapy
You’re making an effort to adjust to her needs and she could try to do the same with yours (freely ofc, without pressure of any kind).
If this isn’t possible, then you should consider whether it is worth continuing the relationship or not.
It shouldn’t solely be your responsibility to lower your drive. Ideally you and your partner should try to find a happy middle-ground.
Fluoxetine. Lowered mine. Still there, but I’m not bothered by it any more
Find a new girl. Nothing healthy will suppress your sex drive
Stay busy
Vape
Eat a raw potato
Having sex 3 times a day for at least an hour oer session for some weeks might lower your drive. It did for me.
Grief…
drugs
Eat a tin of Staag chili.
Once a month? Don’t get her pregnant you’ll never see that pussy again. Consider your options because you’re not going to lower your sex drive just to simp. It’s not going to happen without a severe disruption somewhere, The type of disruption you don’t want. The underlying issue needs to be dealt with not your sex drive
Age
Or, find a woman in her early 30’s that’s just starting her sexual prime.
You may have to up your game tho.
The issue is communication—not you. It’s perfectly normal to feel the need two or three times a week. My partner and I experience it two or three times a day on some days. It’s all about communication and meeting each other’s needs.
However, her needs may not necessarily be physical. She might require something more important to her—something that makes her feel needed and valued. If you’re not fulfilling those needs, you likely won’t have yours met either.
Otherwise, someone else might already be meeting those needs. Like I said, communication is key. You should be at your prime—don’t intentionally slow yourself down.
Hope this helps shift your perspective.
Get a stressful job
Once a month is tough… maybe try doing it a couple times during the single session instead till ur dick’s raw and u won’t think about it for at least a bit longer. Tbh ur partner should meet u halfway. Maybe the occasional hj,bj, or idk grind sesh instead of penetrative stuff. Also def have more communication on this topic with her
Don’t go vegan it increases your sex drive.
Find a girlfriend that actually likes you
Don’t worry fren, your 30’s will soon be upon you
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That’s such a large gulf, and intimacy is such an important part of a relationship.
This is a terrible reason to want to lower your sex drive. It’s not something that is bad or shameful. Would it be okay to ask the opposite and how to increase the sex drive of your partner? Marriages are a lot of compromise so whatever effort you need to put in, your wife should be putting in equal effort if there’s a mismatch and unhappiness in the bedroom.
Getting fat also helps