I (20M) can not make a decision if it hurts someone else at every inconvenience I’ll chose something that means me sacrificing my happiness or mental stability. I have this issue with relationships and even in my love life and I don’t know how to or what to do to fix this. I’m about to get married and we went on a break because I had been to mentally stressed out and broke down and now we are back together and I’m concerned if it’s my brain trying to protect the other person. I am seeking therapy to see if it’s just me and I’m the problem, it’s like it affects me to the point where I don’t know what to think is right or wrong anymore, and I can’t find the words to explain my emotions cause they feel like it’s different.
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This all seems like you are going out of your way to never be seen in a negative light by anyone . Did you have any trauma with family or friends growing up ?
If i had to give any advice i believe therapy is where you should go to , this does not seem like a problem that will dissolve by just being aware of it , especially if its putting you relationship at risk.
You need to focus on your own well-being and stability. Please don’t get married until you’re feeling more stable – and until you’re a little older.
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